<p>I'm applying to many different boarding schools for next year, which will be 9th grade for me. I've applied to Exeter, Milton, Taft, Groton, Andover, Deerfield,etc. I just want to know what dating is like...is it hard and are there a lot of serious relationships? Also, would you get in trouble if teachera caught you in a dorm together just hanging out? If you have any specific information, could you tell me which school it's about? I've never been to a boarding school before, so thanks!</p>
<p>I think I speak for most schools mentioned, but relationships are pretty common at BS, though hooking-up is more prevalent. There are generally 6-8 relationships in my grade happening at any moment, and most have been going on for a while. As for PDA, it depends on the school as to what the consequences are. at Andover, minor PDA such as kissing, cuddling, etc. is ok, unless a faculty member sees that the situatuon might escalate into something that could be of harm to either student. At andover, the rules are very reasonable. Idk about any other schools though</p>
<p>I’m assuming this is the same for many schools, but at my BS hooking up is VERY common (600+ teenagers living together, it’s going to happen). Relationships definitely happen, I’d say it’s similar to normal schools except that you’ll see each other a lot more often. One thing to say is that at boarding school people are going to see you at your best and at your worst. Your classmates know you infinitely better than ones at public or day schools would, which can both benefit and hurt relationships.</p>
<p>Many BS have strict rules about who can be in what areas of dorms. An boy could not be in even a common area of a girls dorm in many circumstances. Not sure where the “hooking up” happens, as my D’s BS prohibits PDA in public areas.</p>
<p>^ Oh, believe me, surfcity, the “hooking up” happens. 
The campuses are large and the students are smart.</p>
<p>Every school will spell out in its student handbook the school’s policy regarding access to dorm rooms and appropriate behavior on and off campus. For dating, there are special legal concerns for kids under the age of 16.</p>
<p>Here is an example. You need to scroll down to page 54, to the chapter titled “Academy Policies”:
<a href=“http://exeter.edu/documents/EBook.pdf[/url]”>http://exeter.edu/documents/EBook.pdf</a></p>
<p>So there are more hookups than actual relationships?</p>
<p>I was pointed out a favourite place for hooking up at one bs, in the woods. The good thing about having tours without your parents is that the guides do tell you more :)</p>
<p>keisha, there is some of both. Hard to quantify but I know of plenty of relationships. Some have continued after graduation and into college. </p>
<p>Since you do see each other more than at a day school, it is a little like dog years. I’d say 1 week of a boarding school teen relationship is equal to 3 weeks of a regular teen relationship.</p>
<p>There are serious relationships as well as hooking up here at Lawrenceville. In my dorm alone, I know two guys of my grade who have been with their girlfriends for a year and a half.</p>
<p>My junior friend told me that when she got a boyfriend, broke up with him and then got back together, both times that she was with him she did horrible in school. Which makes no sense to me as it is easy to concentrate on work rather than your boyfriend, just as you would focus on Spanish in spanish class rather than the class you had before. Does this apply to boarding schools as well, or is it different because the school has much higher standards, and much smarter students?</p>
<p>Way more hooking up than actual relationships. Here, anyway.</p>
<p>It’s most likely harder for someone in a relationship to focus on school. They’re probably constantly thinking of the person, what to do together, and just lusting after them.</p>
<p>But why harder? And although I’ve never been in a relationship, it can’t be so consuming that you can’t focus on your work right? @Izzy Busy Bee where are you right now?</p>
<p>Well, I guess it depends on how strong your feelings are for that person, although I had one “boyfriend” and that never affected Mt schoolwork, but we only “dated” for a two weeks or so.</p>
<p>so the probs for someone to be in a relationship are pretty high</p>