<p>As an incoming freshman to MIT this fall, I already know that there are lots of academic pressures at MIT, but what about social life?</p>
<p>My real question is: how hard/easy is to find a boyfriend/girlfriend at MIT and do well on your academic works? Are "couples" normally appear on the campus, or are people just too busy doing their studying and coding?</p>
<p>For example, if you have around 10 good friends at MIT right now, how many of them have boyfriend/girlfriend? Are their partners most likely from MIT, Harvard, or other parts of Boston?</p>
<p>It is like normal life. Don't worry about it. I don't know anyone who is too busy studying to have a boyfriend/girlfriend if they really want one. If you are, you're just studying way too much. People I know date people from MIT, but some date people from Wellesly or Harvard or other places. But I'm not sure who is dating whom has anything to do with being here at MIT.... life happens wherever you go, right? You just happen to be at MIT. </p>
<p>yeah, this sorts of make sense...but you know, once you are really into your boyfriend/girlfriend, you have to spend a tremendous amount of time on your "serious" dating; i am afriad it might affect my sleeping time and my MIT study.</p>
<p>or, is college dating just different than the high school one?</p>
<p>Well, college dating is different in that you don't necessarily have to make time for a serious boyfriend/girlfriend -- if they go to your school, you don't have to go anywhere to spend time with them. You can just spend time with them in your room, while doing work or otherwise.</p>
<p>There are a lot of people at MIT in relationships, serious or otherwise -- like JLP said, it's just college. </p>
<p>I've been with my boyfriend for two years; he's also an MIT student. I don't think he takes any more of my time than anything else in my life.</p>
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or, is college dating just different than the high school one?
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WAY DIFFERENT. For one, there is no such thing as 'dating' :p [as mollie's post above explains].
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i am afriad it might affect my sleeping time and my MIT study.
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No because you don't set time 'aside' .. e.g. you just do your homework together. The more intense a school is, the better dating scene it will have (sounds logical doesn't it). And a LOT of things affect your sleeping time in college and your gf/bf will probably be the last reason you're not sleeping well.</p>
<p>i do not understand this thread. were you unaware, OP, that girls have cooties? tend to your intellectual labors and fritter not away the strength of your youth on fickle nonsense.</p>
<p>Ohhhhh pleaseeee...why worry about dating? The sex in college is going to be awesome! haha maybe that's just me since I'm going to UCONN. However, I do have great news for ya though...23% of MIT is composed of Asians, if those are the type of girls that you're looking for...you're in LUCK my friend</p>
<p>Hmm...well I don't agree that you need to put aside a "tremendous" amount of time for anyone...ever. Plus, it's not like we're THAT busy. I guess we do try to scare all of the innocent little pre-froshies with horror stories of all nighters. We do work hard but it's not like we don't have time to breathe sufficiently. =)</p>
<p>But that aside, people here date other people here. Why shouldn't they? Sure, we're all nerds. Guess what. MIT isn't the real world. Nerds find other nerds hot. Works nicely for everyone.</p>
<p><em>Alert: unsubstantiated (and probably unsubstantiable) speculation follows</em>
I actually have this theory that MIT relationships tend to jump from "Hi, I like you" to "living together" faster than in other places, simply because all that back and forth early dating stuff, although exhilerating, is exhausting and stressful and not conducive to work. But of course I have nothing other than anecdotal evidence to back this up.</p>
<p>On another topic, keep in mind that MIT units are supposed to equal hours spent on classwork per week. So a normal 48-unit courseload is approximately 48 hours. Throw in another 49 hours for sleep, maybe 8 hours for an extracurricular, and 7 hours for some leisurely dinners. That still leaves you 56 hours of elective time.</p>
<p>When my boyfriend and I got together two years ago, I was so giddy/twitterpated/in puppy love that I couldn't sleep or eat for a week. It was sort of like being in a war zone, only pleasant. Bizarre.</p>
<p>to the original poster: apparently you did not go to CPW. or you did not go to any of the parties while you were there. or you hid under a rock or in some other obscure location and spoke to nobody. based solely on those few days, i would say there were more people a) that i found interesting and b) that found me (a geek chick) interesting than there ever were at my football-centered high school. and besides... the frat parties made it pretty tough to believe that anyone was "too busy" to be interested in partying/dating/sex. in fact, it was hard to believe the people were from MIT at all until you talked to them. don't worry - you'll meet PLENTY of interesting people next year!</p>