<p>I'm 21, male, senior electrical engineering student never dated, kissed or held hands.</p>
<p>Why is it that when a girl says "oh i've never dated, i'm worried about college" everyone says, nah, it'll be okay, just take things as they come.</p>
<p>But for me, the advice is like, so get with a fat girl...and fast!!</p>
<p>Girls do usually have an easier time… because they pretty much wait for guys to talk to them.</p>
<p>But guys typically have to go over the the girl and be a bit charming, especially if alcohol isn’t involved. But really if you notice a girl you like and want to go on a date with, start a convo with her and ask her out. The worst that can happen is that she says no, and if she does so rudely, shes probably not someone you’d want to be with anyway. </p>
<p>Don’t listen to silly advice like that (though theres nothing wrong with big girls). The longer you wait to approach a girl, the harder it will get, I’m sure.</p>
<p>Theres also things like eharmony which you shouldn’t be embarrassed to use. I think everyone on those sites aren’t as scared to strike up a convo with others since there is some privacy by still being on a computer. ;P</p>
<p>nah brah you’re screwed. but fat chicks need lovin too.</p>
<p>But they gotta pay. Hehe, alllllriiiight.</p>
<p>wow man that sux. Join a few clubs and meet people that share your interests. If u like any, ask her out. Worst thing that could happen is you’ll get rejected. U’ll be sad for a few days, then move on.</p>
<p>Nothing wrong with bigger chicks. They’re people too. And usually they have all the components that the smaller chicks have. They’re just wrapped up in bigger packages.</p>
<p>Good luck. I hope you get what you’re looking for. Don’t fret.</p>
<p>This thread is a giant eyeroll.</p>
<p>lower your standards… and take guys advice on these matters, not girls lol</p>
<p>Okay, so I feel a bit creepy saying that I looked at a few of OP’s old posts to see if he ever mentioned any of his qualities, hobbies, personality, etc. All I saw was moping, complaining, and distress about never having a girlfriend so “late” in life. Then he says there’s no time for a gf because of constant studying, that most girls are ugly, most girls are unavailable, blahblahblah… excuses!!</p>
<p>This sounds like a bad case of self-pity for which the only cure is some lovin’. So, here is my sincere advice for thermo1:</p>
<h1>1) Stop making excuses. If you don’t “have time” for a gf, then don’t look for one and don’t complain. Simple. There has never been a deadline for getting a date.</h1>
<h1>2) And if you do have time, then what are you NOT doing right? If this is really that important to you, then maybe you can sacrifice something else.</h1>
<h1>3) Don’t base your self-esteem on the sole luxury of having a girlfriend or date. I’m not saying that you are, I’m just saying that you shouldn’t. You sound extremely intelligent and hard-working, which is fantastic and something to be proud of.</h1>
<h1>4) What have you been waiting for??? Once you get over the ‘time’ issue, it’s all up to you to make a move. Girlfriends don’t appear magically, it starts with making dates. Maybe start friendly conversations with single “ugly” or “fat” girls, and then ask one out for lunch, a movie, or even a walk…anything!! Just get experience talking to girls, making friends with them, seeing which personalities you like/dislike. But I must warn you!! Proceed with caution… because you may actually start liking one of them!!! -omg Gasp die-</h1>
<p>All joking aside, it’s always going to be up to you to initiate. No matter how many times you ask the internet for advice, we could be blue in the face with suggestions, if you don’t do anything, nothing will happen. Hint: most single girls don’t bite, but don’t be pushy.</p>
<p>So log off, get out of your chair and away from computers, and spend your time normally dedicated to complaining on the internet to actually working towards a date. I know I sound snarky and blunt in this [rather long] post, but you really really need to help yourself before anything we say can help. I wish you the best of luck and the greatest amount of courage to ask a girl out! Let us know how it goes.</p>
<p>I like how it’s always the ugly or sub-par dudes that whine about ‘deserving more than just fat chicks’.</p>
<p>At least if you’re fat you can potentially lose weight and become better looking. If you’re just plain ugly, well… :)</p>
<p>Maybe you’re just really ugly? Like Elephant Man’s ugly brother.</p>
<p>Get with a fat girl…FASTTTT!!!</p>
<p>seriously though. quality girls will not go for an awkward, inexperienced guy, which you are bound to be if you’ve never been with a girl before.</p>
<p>You are all giving him the wrong advice. This bloke knows what he’s talking about:</p>
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<p>lol dude have you ever talked to a girl. I have never had a real “gf” (though a few of friends with benefits cough). Just talk to girls and not about war of warcraft of dungeons or dragons</p>
<p>I second Disneygal’s advice.</p>
<p>Except for the fat or ugly girl stuff. That just reinforces the belief that you’re not good enough. Go after girls that you find attractive - hell, go after the hottest in the room if you find the balls to. Your chances with them are no different than with a fat or ugly girl. Except when you’re making out with a hot girl you will be feeling a hell of a lot better than making out with some fatty.</p>
<p>Some things:
<ol>
<li><p>Hit the gym a bit, buy proper fitting clothes that look good on you, and work on your hygience til yours is the best in the room at any given place. This isn’t because white teeth or a button-down give off pheremones. It’s because you present yourself as a guy WHO GIVES A DAMN ABOUT HIMSELF.</p></li>
<li><p>The more you get out there, the more in time you will not give a damn about rejection and the more you will not give a damn about getting women or a date. These attitudes will ironically help you immensely in attracting women.</p></li>
<li><p>No fatties. LOL</p></li>
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<p>Ya, totally agree with peter_parker’s #4. It’s not like fatties are actual people, that is just liberal propaganda-like muppets or Jesus.</p>
<p>hey trust me, there are gonna be girls in your exact same position. like me! entering college, never ever been in any kind of romantic relationship. Girls like us appreciate being talked to, even by a guy who’s never dated.</p>
<p>Well, guys will always give ***<em>ty advice to each other about chicks. And then it will take years for them to unlearn it and actually become dateable. *shrug</em> Who am I to stand in the way of this sad, sad cycle? Carry on?</p>
<p>What the hell are you talking about Silvestis? You haven’t criticized anyone’s advice with argument or even asserted your own.</p>
<p>Successful guys are much better at learning from than simply asking women for advice. It’s a tired cliche, but who do you think will teach you to be a better fisherman? The fisherman or the fish?</p>
<p>We’re all waiting in anticipation for your expert advice.</p>
<p>By the way, my fat girl joke was very tongue-in-cheek, but I guess no one understands that here.</p>
<p>i think what she meant to say was that girls never know what they want, and it can take years for them to become sensible and make smart choices. very sad cycle indeed.</p>
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