<p>newtothis, you’re right; that voice often reverberates in a girl’s head for decades. I think this situation ultimately belongs to the individual. We usually can’t influence someone else’s weight, but we can injure our relationships. Overweight girls (and normal-weight girls who perceive themselves as overweight) already feel judged by everybody, including themselves. I think uninvited parental involvement is much more likely to be painful than helpful (with a few exceptions, as some posters are describing here). Better to keep food temptations out of the house, cook healthy meals (if you do the cooking), love your daughter as she is, and say nothing. I know we all worry about whatever might affect our kids’ social comfort and happiness, but they need the dignity of owning this issue themselves.</p>