<p>I’m a high school sophomore, and though my school’s too big for me to be the only resident intellectual (I really can’t think of a less conceited way to say that, but OP, you must know what I mean–bright, hardworking, slightly introverted. Like a Rory Gilmore), I still have a reputation not unlike your daughter’s. I honestly think guys are intimidated of her. It’s not that guys dislike your DD but that they don’t connect with her on that base, high school boy level. Homecoming is supposed to be fun, and they see your DD’s brains before her party-spirit.</p>
<p>But the real problem is whether or not it bothers her. Personally, my mother would probably make me go with some friends, whether I wanted to or not. She’s a big believer in high school experiences. And I’d probably be glad, a few days later, that she made me go. But there’s nothing wrong with her. She’s just taking a little longer to blossom socially, and she’ll probably never be the hard partying social butterfly. I’ve never been on a real date (I mean, not just to the movies or a coffee shop with an awkward half-crush) or been kissed either, and it bothers me sometimes, but that’s life. It’ll happen eventually, probably when she is in college and has to create her own memories. Until then, urge her to go to Homecoming with friends, and get dad to buy her a corsage.</p>