<p>While its really hard for me to take this topic seriously because this incites the image of someone depressed on valentines day because no one gave them a rose, I do believe I may know the issue.</p>
<p>It’s not about how you look, its about whether you fall on the list of people who are “options” or not. If you have never dated anyone at this point and never gone to a dance, then any boy remotely interested will think “oh, no, she’s the X type of girl, not the dating type.” That’s why everyone, even girls, have to make it known at some point that they are a dating option. When a boy summons a list of possible people to ask, they don’t just try the hottest ones in order - we rule out the ones who would we are pretty sure aren’t interested in the dating/dance scene. If she establishes that she is down to earth and interested in HS dating, romance, whatever, whatever, then other people will take notice and consider her as an option in the future.</p>