<p>Op,
Yes, I sure do wish that there was a way for parents to motivate an unmotivated kiddo. I struggle with it as well.
Just some brief thoughts on your post… </p>
<p>“There isn’t a lot of money for college and she’s aware of that.” Maybe she is concerned about how going to college may affect your finances?</p>
<p>“I had her take SAT at end of sophomore year and she got a 1090.” Unless a kid is a superbrainac, the SAT is best taken in Junior year when kiddos brains have matured a bit. Soph year is NOT a good year to take this test. How many times does an unmotivated person want to take a 4 hour test? She should look into the ACT test. Get the sample test on the ACT website and have her try it under “test conditions with proper time keeping” at home. If she scores better than the SAT equivalent of 1090 (there are SAT-ACT concordance tables on both SAT and ACT websites), then she should prep and take the ACT instead.</p>
<p>“Unsure what she wants to study in college.” There is the collegeboard book of majors that you can get at a library. They get reprinted every year, so if you buy one that is a few years old, it’s cheaper. [Amazon.com:</a> Book of Majors 2011 (College Board Book of Majors) (9780874479041): The College Board: Books](<a href=“http://www.amazon.com/Book-Majors-2011-College-Board/dp/0874479045/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1358759711&sr=1-1&keywords=book+of+majors+2011]Amazon.com:”>http://www.amazon.com/Book-Majors-2011-College-Board/dp/0874479045/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1358759711&sr=1-1&keywords=book+of+majors+2011). I also looked into books that would give Myers Briggs personality tests and give jobs that might fit kiddos personality. It’s kinda fun and a least gets both sides talking without just one side lecturing.</p>
<p>There are many threads which talk about the 3.3-3.6 kids and the 3.0-3.3 kids. Here is an example. Some of the threads might discuss merit money?
<a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parents-forum/767486-where-did-your-3-3-3-6-gpa-child-get-30.html[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parents-forum/767486-where-did-your-3-3-3-6-gpa-child-get-30.html</a></p>
<p>“She doesn’t seem to realize that it’s not just getting into college, but getting some money that will make the difference.” Maybe you can sit down and discuss this fully when everyone is calm.</p>
<p>Agree with other posters to d/w D what she might interested in: comm college, public state, private college, work, Americorps, military, travel/work abroad. Some kids “mature” later than others…no harm going to college a little later.</p>
<p>Lastly, some kids don’t push themselves in HS for various reasons…don’t like the required 5 academic subject core, too easy, day too long, etc. Some of these kids do better once they get to college…can choose from broader range of classes, classes more challenging, different social structure and less cliques in college, etc.</p>
<p>"The less interest she takes the more obsessed I become. " Been there, done that. It’s hard to stop!! Unfortuately, we can’t force someone to be motivated, it has to come from within them, when they are ready.</p>