dealing with "the move"

<p>I guess this might not be on too many peoples minds , but its troubling me.</p>

<p>I really want to go to a school, yet its pretty far away from where I live ( i live in Northern Virginia, the school is Northwestern, outside chicago).</p>

<p>My "dilemma" is leaving everything behind. I mean, I know ill be back every couple of months, but I just dont like the idea of not being able to see any of my highschool friends whenever I want to. I could go to UVA ( which i do really like)- but it doesnt offer what I want to study in. the only reasons I would go to uva is becasue of state tuition, proximity to friends/family, and generally good academics ( i could still do prelaw, but it doesnt have a major that I want)</p>

<p>I guess im just scared of starting over, meeting new people, etc. I love many people up in this area, and almost all of my classmates/friends will be going to schools in VA.</p>

<p>anyone have any opinions/expiriences on this?</p>

<p>no matter what, you and your highschool friends will draft apart very quickly. It's no use to worry about it, and don't let it hold you back, it's part of life and growing up.</p>

<p>I haven't seen any of my class since I graduated-9 yeas ago. It's just how it happens. I went to Gar-Field in Dale City, so trust me when I say I know where you're coming from :)</p>

<p>before you go to school, take a two week trip to get over the initial homesickness you'll be feeling. It only hits you once, so once it's out of your system you'll feel better.</p>

<p>plus, you cam make a ton more friends at Northwestern</p>

<p>your friends will also being going to college somewhere and making new friends, and getting busy, etc., and people grow and change</p>

<p>but if you are not ready, you are not ready</p>

<p>ever seen american pie? the second one kinda talks about it</p>

<p>anyway, people change at college and cuz they change they grow up and grow apart. you cant remain friends with all ur high school buddies, the best u can do is just to talk occasionally. dont let ur future be weighed down by wanting to hold onto ur past.</p>

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<p>Most definitely, a few of my friends are definitely different in just a month, however my closest friends for the most part have not really changed, and by coincidence many of us ended up in the boston area whether it be Tufts, BU, Northeastern, Harvard or BC, and during 3 day breaks including this current columbus day one we all get together and meet up, so yeah, but definitely don't pick your college based on proximity to your friends b/c that def should not be a reason. Just go where you'll be happiest is easily the best decision, don't worry you'll meet loads of people who are awesome compatible personalities so just have fun with it.</p>

<p>the other posters are right. You can't freeze life in one place, and even if you don't move on the other people in it will. The lesson should be to make the most of today, enjoy the times you can spend with them now. Too often people spend periods of time almost sleepwalking thru their lives, taking the daily things they enjoy for granted. Use your realization as a springboard to seize the most from every day!</p>