<p>OP- the financial aid system is complex in application but very simple in its philosophy- allow as many kids as possible to attend your university given finite dollars.</p>
<p>The system only looks at income- past income (what you’ve saved), current (the checks you can write) and future (loans, as Soozie points out). They are only interested in the parents and your kid; nobody is asking Aunt Maude to come up with 10K even if she could easily afford it and is willing to pay it. Your child has either worked and saved, or will work during school, or will work in the future, and out of those earnings will contribute to the total.</p>
<p>Of course I would rather have my kids school distribute more money my way to lessen my burden. They are not financial planners who have the capacity, skill, or interest to help every single family with their own particulars. But broadly put, a kid whose parents have less will get more, and a kid whose parents have a lot will get less or none. Seems fair to me.</p>
<p>Among the kids who were classmates of my children at college were kids who ran the gamut from exceedingly wealthy to highly disadvantaged backgrounds. There were kids who took ROTC scholarships and are now serving in Iraq or on aircraft carriers in the Gulf to pay back their commitment. There were kids who worked crazy jobs and crazy hours during college to keep their loans to an absolute minimum. There were kids who did the first two years at a commuter college and then transferred to keep the total costs down, and kids who did two years a private college and then transferred to state U when they ran out of money. In our neighborhood there are kids at the Service Academies (free) and kids who went to college really far away because they represented “geographic diversity” and someone was willing to pay them to move across the country.</p>
<p>Private institutions by and large get to determine the basis upon which they distribute their funds as long as they are not violating any laws in how they do it. If you don’t like it, or don’t agree with their philosophy, you have a simple solution- don’t apply there.</p>
<p>I know many families who live large who never saved a penny for college and are angry and resentful at the financial aid system. I know many families of modest means who saved aggressively for college and they are equally angry that their savings are being “taxed” so that people with much greater incomes can keep their McMansions with the nice ski equipment in the garage. And there are people at both extremes who have decided not to worry about other people- adults generally make the financial decisions in their own homes and although it is hard to tell your child that you can’t afford option A, that’s life. Surely your kid hasn’t reached the age of 18 without realizing that some people have more money and some have less.</p>
<p>I don’t think bringing the kids future career plans into the mix is the responsibility of the financial aid office. If your son plans to be a nursery school teacher, you may remind him from time to time that taking out lots of loans will be a significant hardship. But again, surely an 18 year old has observed that nursery school teachers make less money than orthopedic surgeons. People make career decisions for all sorts of reasons, and debt obligation is for sure part of that calculus. </p>
<p>The system isn’t perfect, and for an individual family, depending on their life circumstances, may be horribly broken. But by and large, the private U’s have developed a pretty robust way of making sure that the Rockefellers and the Carnegies and their progeny are not the only people in the US who get to attend a private university.</p>
<p>I don’t live in Michigan. When my son was applying to engineering schools, we were a little surprised at how expensive U Michigan was for out of state. But- to be fair- it’s not rational for me to expect the citizens and taxpayers of Michigan to subsidize my kid. You want your kid to get a 100% subsidy from the taxpayers? Go to West Point, get a degree for free, and then pay back all the nice citizens who paid your tuition by heading off to Baghdad.</p>