<p>im in the middle of my first semester of community college and cannot focus or feel serious about it. i can barely grasp algebra 1, never could, even with toturing still cant. and my boyfriend moved an hour away and has a real job 30 an hour, will soon have a house for us o live in (we are very serious) and said i do not need a real job. so i feel like i am wasting our time and y parents money. they are all ''oh you need college'' but i will end up not even using my degree!its only 2 years yea but my boyfriend is busting his butt trying to get our life started, i am just lost. how can i talk to my parents about this? i dont want them to be upset, but i will have a stable home to live in within a few months, and i would really hate the stress im having to cause me to have to waste time and money re taking courses. right now is just not the time for me to be doing this</p>
<p>I don’t think you should just “drop out” of college just because you have someone in your life willing to support you.</p>
<p>Look at it this way, and don’t take it the wrong way either, but what if something happens between you and your boyfriend in the future? You will be left with nothing on your back, and not having a degree, even if only a two year one, will not help your chances if this situation were to occur.</p>
<p>You cannot always think about what you’re told in the present and imagine that it will be like that for the rest of your life. You should continue trying to get the degree because the future is always an unknown, and the craziest of things may happen. </p>
<p>As for your lack of motivation, I really think that it stems from what’s been put into your head. I’m really not trying to offend you, but in this day and age, we all need to stop becoming dependent on others, because if something happens, no one will be there to save you.</p>
<p>I say continue going for your degree and show your boyfriend you can make something of yourself despite having him offer it freely to you.</p>
<p>When you move in with him and marry him, how will you spend your time? </p>
<p>And what if he loses his job? Has an accident and becomes disabled? Can’t be the breadwinner for whatever the reason?</p>
<p>You need your own earning power. You need to be able to support any children you might want to have. You need the security of knowing that, if you have to leave suddenly, you’ll have resources.</p>
<p>Before you even consider marrying someone, you need to be able to survive on your own. You need to know that you can support yourself if something unexpected happens.</p>
<p>If you don’t want to go to college, don’t go. However, you do need to have the experience of living on your own and supporting yourself without relying on someone else (emotionally or financially). If this means dropping out of college, working, and supporting yourself for a time, so be it. Do not hold on to a fantasy that your boyfriend is going to take care of and be your financial support forever. Focus on how you can be an independent adult.</p>
<p>Adding to opinions, an associate degree, undeniably in addition to your skill set, which would also lead to opportunity for a better paying job, will help you double your family income. And hoping your trust in the relationship and the relationship is for keeps, so all the more reasons for you to keep at it and get that education.</p>
<p>And it is just a matter of 3 more semesters, roughly about 12 months of focus and hard work. Be happy and count your blessings your Parents are paying for it. Make the most of it.</p>
<p>Twenty years from now, would you want your own daughter to just rely on others for her life, or want her to have the skills and education to be able to take care of herself? Even if you have the strongest relationship ever, life can happen, and you could be left alone to support yourself and any children you may have. You owe it to yourself to be sure you can stand on your own two feet without a partner. It’s sweet and wonderful that your boyfriend wants to provide for you, and in this day when so many men don’t take care of their own lives, it’s refreshing that he is such a hard worker wanting to be the provider. But, any number of bad things could happen, and you don’t want to be left stranded, having to go back to your parent’s home for support because you didn’t prepare to take care of yourself. Maybe Comm. College isn’t your thing, but you need something. Find a field of study you are interested in, whatever it is, and get educated in that so that you can have a career. Work full time until you have kids, and then work part time if that is what you want. You know college is tough to pay for these days, and a house, cars, insurances of all sorts, money to raise the kids, money to set aside for emergencies, etc, all add up. It is very, very hard for just one person to make enough money to cover all of that unless your bf is a doctor, or other highly paid professional (and 30 an hour is nice, but take insurance, taxes, retirement, etc out and it’s not that much.)</p>