<p>So I haven't been doing so good this quarter. It got off to a shaky start when my mom was hiding her being sick from me.</p>
<p>Ever since then, I can't get my act together.</p>
<p>I love my school, but it's causing me so much stress. I am clearly a terrible student and not up to my school's standards. </p>
<p>I'm not used to AMAZING grades, but I might have just got a D in Orgo and I wish I could go back to last year and redo everything but I can't.</p>
<p>I literally have NO friends here (honestly I don't like most of the students but it's still lonely).</p>
<p>I can't keep up with schoolwork and I hate every job possibility except, of course, the ones that are keeping me from being happy now. I am pre-vet and I honestly couldn't see myself not being a vet.</p>
<p>I keep reliving the past because it's so much better and I don't know what to do.</p>
<p>I have ADHD and horrible procrastination issues.</p>
<p>I want to give myself one more quarter to see if I can get my act together, but I don't know if I should?</p>
<p>Also, should I email my professor about actually passing the class (at least a C-). I did okay in the class in terms of exams, but the quizzes and the lab portion will probably bring me down and the final was HARD. Quizzes were daily and because I procrastinate, I didn't know ****. Will this help lean him towards passing me?</p>
<p>Take some time and go see your school’s counseling services. Talk to them about your ADHD, your mom being sick, your lack of achievement in your classes; tell them everything. If they find that you’re depressed or have some other kind of issue, they can give you documentation for it and can tell you where to go from there. </p>
<p>I’m sorry that you’re going through a rough patch. I’d say to let your professors know and to also tell them you’re going to the health clinic. I’m not sure if there’s much you can do now grade-wise (your professors and the clinic staff will know your school’s specific policies), but the first step is to reach out to people. </p>
<p>Also, don’t give up yet! Figure things out and then try your best next time. Life’s too short to give up without a good fight. </p>
<p>I just want to second harvestmoon’s advice to you. Get support at school. It doesn’t mean you have to stay, but you can find people who can help you, listen to you, and give you a sounding board for figuring out ways to get back on track towards your career goal no matter whether you decide to/need to stop out for a spell or not. Don’t hold it all inside. I also wish you good luck. … and a p.s. The fact that you say you love your school and that you have the goal of being a vet… those are two positive signs. :)</p>
<p>Can you contact your school’s counseling center, office of services for students with disabilities, and your academic adviser. Ask about special permission to withdraw late from any of your recent classes due to your mom being sick, your ADHD or emotional conditions, etc. The school might have an option for you, but you probably have to ask the people on campus who would know. Also, maybe take a leave of absence until some of these issues come under control. You can also work with a counselor on great ways to find friends and build relationships on campus or in the community. Freshman year can be a beast, but you can find you way if you address these concerns now.</p>
<p>Sometimes just allowing yourself to stop and figure out things can help. Get your support from the college. Go see your doctor. There can often be help out there you’d not normally be aware of. Even something as simple as a referral to a gym program. It can help both with energy levels, meeting new acquaintances and giving some structure to your day/week. </p>
<p>Put yourself first. College and vet school will still be there next semester or longer if needs be. If you need to take a leave of absence (and you may not with sufficient support) the school can provide advice on how to get back in smoothly when you and your situation improve. There’s absolutely no rush to finish college. No one cares if you’re 22 or 32. That’s hard to get your head around at 18 when you’ve always been told that your college degree is the prize to push for.</p>
<p>You’ve got your vet school dream. Great. Don’t let yourself talk yourself out of it. Got into college. You obviously care a lot about doing well. You’ve made it to college. You’ve just got other things going on in your life that are understandably taking your attention. </p>
<p>Do what you can for your mum but remember that you’re not superhuman. You may need someone to talk to just to voice your worries. If you don’t physically have someone, and again a counselor or health care worker would see it as part of their job, often there are helplines run locally or on campus where there’s someone just to listen. They’re trained volunteers and you don’t need to be suicidal to use them. Loneliness and frustration can be hellish in its own way.</p>
<p>If you are clinically depressed (I’ve got it chronically because I and no one else recognised it early enough - it was obvious with hindsight- and because I/my doctor didn’t jump on it with full force it wasn’t sorted out properly and it’s festered like a wound), don’t worry about taking meds. If you really need them they can be a godsend. Chances are the person in front of you at the supermarket is on them too. If whatever you try doesn’t work for you, push to try something else or augment it. </p>
<p>It’s not helpful at all but I’m thinking of you and hope you get some support asap.</p>
<p>Talk to the deans at your school, they can arrange things like extensions and incompletes. It’s best to talk to them as early as possible rather than waiting for a crisis. Just don’t tell them if you ever get suicidal because they can kick you out of school for that.</p>