<p>I think that I am depressed. It sounds ridiculous to me,but I feel like I don't have control of my life anymore. I'm in 10th grade and I don't think I've ever felt this cruddy. I'm taking the most rigorous load I can right now and it feels like I can't keep up with it. Things keep piling on and when I don't get work or anything I just go balistic. I can't pay attention or do work in class. Not only this, I've been withdrawn from activities with friends and other things for reasons I can't put my finger on. I'm overwhelmed. I am overly sensitive to negative things. I've had frequent bursts of crying, I feel stressed out all the time. I don't even want to go to school anymore. This guy I liked chooses to prefer everyone else over me and be cold and that just puts the icing on the cake. It's Saturday night now and I have tons of work for Monday and I haven't really started much. I just don't know what to do. I know there are people with bigger issues than this, but this is the worst I've felt in a long time. What could this be</p>
<p>i think all that stress has got to you..i feel that way too sometimes. I think you need to sit down and cry first. that way, you’ll feel a whole lot better and you won’t feel like crying anymore. Then sit down, and write down what you need to do, or write down your thoughts or write down something. Then, whenever you’re ready, start your homework and do little bits of it at a time. that way, you break a huge mountain of work into little stones and you can feel like you’ve accomplished a lot. That’ll make you feel a bit less overwhelmed. </p>
<p>next, about this guy: if he doesn’t seem to care then don’t care about him..i think you should focus on yourself first and feeling better then worrying about if a guy likes you or not. you can still like him(or not, since he sounds like crap to me). Just feel better first. And get some sleep too. and eat, and do something fun every once in a while.</p>
<p>the work load’s not gonna get better, but you can change how you deal with it. btw, you should keep up. it’ll get worse if you put it aside.</p>
<p>hope you feel better! :)</p>
<p>The thing is, this has been going on basically since school has started, and I have written down what I need to do, but it’s not getting done. I have cried. And the guy, he is crap and I realize that. It’s like I hate him, but I still care. I just don’t know what to do anymore…</p>
<p>take one day at a time..that’s what I do..and think of something in the future to look forward to..whether it be way way future, or just next week…but that really helps you keep moving on with your life, no matter how hard it is..</p>
<p>Erm, maybe try and identify the root of the problem (ie why you’re doing all of this, what purpose does it serve, etc.) and work from there?</p>
<p>Or try and avoid/subvert it, although that won’t really solve any of your problems. This can be done in a bunch of different ways (just do something you like), but I’ve had some success with meditation, though others tend to relieve their stress through sex, exercise, food, drugs, etc. Do whatever works for you (although perform a cost-benefit analysis beforehand!)</p>
<p>I was in the same situation as you in 10th grade. The girl I liked went out with a kid that I absolutely HATED at the end of ninth grade, but that summer I got over it. I met another girl who I had a thing with, who subsequently ended up going out with another guy who I did not like. Felt extremely cruddy. To add to that, I had the toughest courseload in school. The first half of the year I had a 3.4 UW GPA. I told myself halfway through to get over it- study hard on weekdays, play hard with friends on weekends (go hang out at their house, do whatever you need to relax), and I got my mind off my troubles. Ended the year with a 3.9, ranked at the top of my class. Just find a way to cope with it- friends, music, sports, whatever you want. You just have to find SOME way to get your feelings out.</p>
<p>Honestly, an online forum isn’t the place to vent your drama and how “difficult” your life is.</p>
<p>Try to deal with them; everyone has those kinds of problems and hardships in life. You aren’t the only one. </p>
<p>Definitely about the “too much work” thing. You’re the one that chose to do all that work or enroll in all those difficult courses. If you can’t handle it, drop out. Don’t go complaining about your choice.</p>
<p>Stress is probably a huge part of your problem, but honestly, those annoying teenage hormones probably have influence too. i hate to agree with the adults that scorn high school students, but teenage angst is SO common.
My advice is just don’t take everything so seriously! Honestly, go watch a stupid movie and have a good laugh or something. When you realize how insignificant these teenage problems are, you accomplish things so much more efficiently</p>
<p>Cheer up :]
There are worse things in the world (look at the economy)</p>
<p>Depression isn’t uncommon among teenagers, (I myself am/was clinically depressed after two major deaths in my family and my dad’s divorce) and people here are doing you a real disservice by telling you to “cheer up.” What you’re describing sounds like it could be clinical depression, in which case you might want to seek help. Not necessarily drugs, which have never really worked for me, but therapy. It’s not a good idea to put the burden of “there are worse things” on yourself right now if you are clinically depressed, because that will only add guilt to your spiral. You need to talk to somebody that actually knows you (parent, counselor, friend’s parent, aunt or uncle) about your feelings and work out with them whether or not you think it would be in your best interest to see a psychologist. Right now, it doesn’t matter that there “could be worse things.” Your reality is your reality, and depression, if this is what this is, can be a fatal illness. So leave CC and talk to somebody real. People who haven’t been through depression (though I’m not saying you definitely are depressed) don’t understand the crippling power it has on you, and the complication of trying to get out of it.</p>
<p>southeasttitan is a genius.
I agree. Don’t listen to people who are telling you to just cheer up. Everybody has different lives and different things that upset them. Thinking that things could be worse isn’t a good thing to do, because you get more depressed, and start imagining that everything is GETTING worse.
It really sucks to be depressed in high school because it’s hard to focus on your school work, friends, EC’s, etc while having to deal with being sad. But what is wonderful is just to find something your passionate about and use that to get you through the year. I found swing dancing 2 years ago, and it’s what has been getting me by. I would be a wreck if I couldn’t just go dance with people and escape the world. I get lost in the music and just enjoy myself at that moment.</p>
<p>For some people this enjoyment might be a certain subject, a job, an activity, but once you find it, you can definitely use it to make you feel better. Maybe it’s even just spending some time with a certain friend. But really. It will all get better if you try to focus on good things. I’m not saying “cheer up,” but feeling happier does take a little effort. :)</p>
<p>Ok, I feel obligated to rephrase what I had meant when I said “cheer up”
I didn’t mean to tell you to go learn about other people’s problems and then permanently keep a smile on your face
I have gone through depression before, a couple years ago, and I have friends who have also gone through it, and I find that people really don’t overestimate the power of humor
This won’t work if you are indeed clinically depressed or if you have hormone inbalance in your brain, but if you just have a bad case of the “blues” (for lack of a better word), then a change of perspective can really work wonders. Whether it’s trying a new activity or talking to someone you love but haven’t talked to in a while, being able to see things in a slightly different light helps.
I do speak from personal experience though, so I’m not trying to say what worked for me and people that I know will work for you too.
I do hope that your mood “cheers up” though.</p>
<p>Yeah, just “cheering up” doesn’t work. I’m not so much really depressed, but I’m 90% sure I fit the criteria for Disassociative Personality Disorder. Sometimes I’ll feel good and everything’s going right, and it’s fine, yet many other times it can totally switch to the point where i don’t feel like myself and the reality of what’s around me doesn’t seem real anymore. I’d say the easiest way to describe it is to feel like being a ghost walking around in an empty shell, and the only thing you can really think of his how absolutely numb you are and like you want to end yourself off. Because where I am now, and where I live is more or less a polar opposite of where I dream to be in a few years, and it’s hard realizing I have two years of this crap to go. Which makes it really hard to do homework and such often, but it eventually gets done and then you go to sleep and wake up the next day and repeat the process.</p>
<p>But yes, I am extremely passionate about certain things, and I’d like to say that those, and not people, religion, etc. has kept me going throughout my life. </p>
<p>And depression isn’t just “cheering up” as mentioned. It’s a very, very real sickness. And for some people, like me, just talking about problems can’t fix it. It’s like things that have been well repressed for years and years…those can’t be talked away.</p>