Depression

[bronson]

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@gotakun

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I’ve been in that situation before… Without a display of emotion (tears) or some way to visualize your distress (poor grades), people just don’t take you seriously, so I’ve learned.

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<p>I’m sorry it took me a while to respond to your message.</p>

<p>I agree with you, without a display of true emotion or solid proof that you have a problem, people assume that you are all set. Instead of helping you prevent a catastrophe, they wait for the catastrophe to happen. That’s the way they think.</p>

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Once things get better, I think it’s best to start wearing your emotions on your sleeve, before they spiral out of control into a rut. Normal people have emotions and talk about them. For instance, they’ll complain about something they don’t like or be excited when something positive is anticipated.

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<p>I talk about my emotions with people on the internet.</p>

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My question for you is, how exactly do you hope these people are going to help you? What are your expectations?

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<p>That’s a good question. I want them to demonstrate that they understand my problem and once they have done that I want them to give me practical advice and actual social skills training. If they are going to tell me “well, you need to socialize more…” that’s worthless advice.</p>

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Do you equate “social intelligence” with charisma?

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<p>It might possible to have an attractive personality and be socially unintelligent. I personally don’t know any cases.</p>

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Personally, I think self-confidence and loss of inhibitions are how to become socially successful. It’ll surprise the hell out of you how easily you make friends and conversation, and how MUCH people really like you, when you’re on ecstasy.

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<p>So is that what antidepressants do? They act like ecstasy?</p>

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If social intelligence was truly to blame, drugs couldn’t magically change that.

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<p>Then there is a way to find out if the problem is social intelligence…</p>

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Also, I think depression clouds up your mind and makes conversation a chore. Even when I’m naturally happy, conversation just flows…

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<p>I have never been a good communicator, so I wouldn’t attribute all my social problems to depression.</p>