@intparent - even though for some reason @justonedad doesn’t seem to like the “everyone is different” mantra, it is said often because it is true. I have two children, both of whom are excellent students. My daughter though is a perfectionist and wants to get all As just because that is what she is driven to do. My son, on the other hand, will for sure let the foot off the gas once he is accepted to whatever school accepts him when it is his turn. I have no issue with either approach, and I wouldn’t want to have so much influence on how hard they work when they are seniors in high school anyway. They should have some goals of their own that they want to reach by that point. So, in my daughter’s case, she does struggle with knowing when to take a break, and I do hope she learns to stop and smell the roses as she gets older. She has shown some progress in that direction, and we certainly have not encouraged her to be the perfectionist that she is. We are all individuals and we are all different, with different strengths and weaknesses. My son is a bit more laid back, so his issue for now is making sure he works hard enough.
Yet another person jumping to an unwarranted conclusion. Did you catch that I was the one who said it in the first place?
Justonedad, if there are several people telling you the same thing, does it occur to you that there might be something wrong with your tone that is leading to the collective conclusion?
Not at all. The conclusions that people are jumping to are telling me a lot more about you than me.
“Not at all. The conclusions that people are jumping to are telling me a lot more about you than me.”
This shows JHS’ comment about your lack of self-awareness is accurate. Try stepping back a bit and examine how others may view your words instead of just digging in.
Hokay…
@SlackerMomMD I’m accustomed to communicating accurately and efficiently. However, I hope you can understand how each person brings a different viewpoint, further filtered by their emotional state. Witness the first poster in the thread who began ranting illogically. Obviously, this was an upsetting topic for them. Maybe some of you should re-examine yourselves and ask why you have a bad reaction to this.
Actually the “itis” might be more applicable to kids who keep studying on some school’s agenda when they are basically done with the HS stage of life. Knowing that it’s time to move on and beginning to examine the next stage of life is probably healthier than keepin’ on keepin on.
I was a bit surprised how fast D1 moved on to her gap summer, starting April 2014. I thought she was sleeping and playing too much, but she truly hit the ground running in college. She accomplished more in the first 6 months of college than I did in 4 years (aside from actual courses). She has sought out and nailed down amazing opportunities.
JOD, @romanigypsyeys ranted??? I don’t think so . . .
I’m sorry, it was the moneybags poster. After I created the thread, moneybags was the first post I saw. That’s an interface quirk. The other one didn’t show up until later.
I’m with mamalion.
Rather than calling it “senioritis” with the negative slant that accompanies the term, I like to think of it as a time to broaden horizons, to study and explore more intensively what the kid wants and how the kid wants rather than the high school. So some might think that their own children are wonderful in their continued diligence to achieve straight As. Others might be prouder of the kid who is at last freer to spend more time reading or volunteering or participating in theater/robotics/hackathons/whatever.
No problem there. I had a scorching, chronic case of Senioritis that started first day of my Junior year. All my closest and valued friends had graduated the previous Spring, leaving the halls seemingly bare and cold despite the late summer warmth. And, I was facing two more years instead of just one. In fact, I landed in the Principal’s office on the first day of the term…or, maybe it was the second day. In any case, I branched out and started attending the local university. That definitely broadened my horizons.
But, I’m not quite sure if you’re saying that’s what Senioritis is; a branching out and broadening of the horizons? An exploration?
And, if that’s the case, does it warrant risking admission rescission or loss of scholarships?
I don’t have a negative reaction to anything here. I just think it’s sad to go “full speed” so to speak at work your whole life.
Life is really damn short. Enjoy it while you can. Take breaks when the work is not critical. And sorry, your senior year of high school is not critical to the rest of your life. It’s not med school. It’s not college. It’s a necessary checkbox especially if you’ve already gotten into college.
Okay, that’s your opinion.
My opinion is that it’s sad I can’t take as much vacation as I’d like because certain things need to get done and some people leave before they are done. Most often because they’ve “decided” the work isn’t critical.
Are you going to criticize me now? 
Is there “something wrong with my tone”? 
JOD, there is a difference between other people deciding work isn’t critical - which leaves you holding the bag and negatively impacts you - and just deciding that it’s not all that goshdarn important to get an A in French Lit your senior year when an A- or B+ will serve you just fine. The latter doesn’t leave other people holding the bag.
An A- is obvious. What if you used a more gritty example? There are lots of students coming on CC worried about their chances or even their existing admission and scholarship because of 'C’s…or worse.
Ha Ha. What if a string of 'B’s causes some poor staff worker to have to go pull your file and put it on the committee’s schedule for review?
No one has ever been rescinded for a string of Bs. Ever.
I seriously doubt anyone’s been rescinded for Cs.
The people on CC are oversensitive worry-warts. If you’ve been on CC as long as I’ve had you’ll notice that 90% of them come back and say nothing happened. The rest forgot that they ever even posted something.
Ok… that’s you and your job.
What does that have to do with a senior in high school?
No one is going to die if a senior forgets a homework assignment or doesn’t go to school one day.
You’re conflating two completely separate things.
That is just what my teacher said. But if you really don’t care about getting a B, then get a B.
This article is right on point to this discussion. For my kid’s mental health I am encouraging her to take the time to be with her friends and enjoy herself more this semester and I don’t feel the least bit guilty about it.