<p>Wow, there are a lot of issues being tossed around here that don't fit into a nice neat package. I was an undergrad there a long time ago and have touched based with more recent students. Also was on campus last spring for a campus visit with my daughter and was able to bring my perceptions up to date and also see the place through her eyes. Cornell IS challenging, and it is hard to get good grades. I think the students who succeed there and are happiest are those who are self-starters. No one will hold your hand - although I think this has improved a bit since I was a student - but if you take initiative, there are a lot of options for help, interesting programs, and diverse opportunities for studying topics that really suit your interests. The students who had chips on their shoulders after being rejected by other Ivies weren't necessarily those who really took advantage of what the university had to offer. Cornell is particularly good at providing opportunities for students with unusual sets of interests and probably has the most diverse set of course offerings of any Ivy.</p>
<p>One of my favorite questions to ask student ambassadors in college information sessions was something along the lines of: "You kids really seem to be busy. How do you organize your time?" Somehow this always seemed to catch them off-guard and result in a good window into what their lives were like. The Cornell answer: "You do have time to do activities like clubs, varsity sports, or music, but you really have to keep up with your classwork, if this is all going to work. But why would you want this any other way if you came to a place like Cornell? The quality of the academics is so good, why wouldn't you want to work hard to take advantage of it?" Compare this to the answer at an extremely selective, small liberal arts college: "I fit my studying in when I have time. I'm really busy here with my activities, but I didn't want to be Phi Beta Kappa anyway." Guess which school my daughter marked off her list.</p>
<p>It was interesting to get her impressions when we were there last spring. We arrived on a Sunday afternoon and walked into Uris Library. The place was packed. Yet, when we walked out onto the Arts Quad, there were a couple of girls throwing a softball around, and some other kids careening around on their skateboards. We found dance classes going on in Lincoln Hall and the Straight, there was a chamber music concert scheduled at Barnes Hall, and there was a Greenday concert in Barton Hall that night with a long line of students waiting to get in. Her impressions: "The kids here seem to work really hard, but they also seem to know how to have fun." We saw a lot of relaxed, smiling kids, but I think that may have had something to do with the beautiful, cloudless day with temps in the 70's in April.</p>
<p>In the end, Cornell is what you make of it. Superficially, it isn't a warm and fuzzy place. Strangers didn't typically greet you, and that hasn't changed. (When I was at grad school at Michigan, it was initially a surprise when random strangers passing you on campus would say hello out of the blue. I wasn't used to this.) However, if you make a little effort in classes, in your dorms, in your activities, to get to know your fellow students, you will make some lifelong friends. I learned as much from this stimulating bunch of students as I did from my professors and am forever grateful for the experience.</p>