<p>I think we all want an update lol</p>
<p>How did I know the guys would say I need to make something happen with the teacher.</p>
<p>Here's the update:</p>
<p>She mentioned that she saw me in the club the next class. I'd needed to turn in an assignment and ask her a question and she was nice about it. She was a little...touchy-feely. She touched my arm twice.</p>
<p>She's probably just really nice.</p>
<p>I told my friends what'd happened and they said the same thing some of you guys did: dude, HOOK UP WITH YOUR TEACHER!! I didn't tell my girlfriend, though. She asked one of my friends did I try and talk to any girls. He told her no. </p>
<p>I'm probably just exaggerating, but most hot women professors aren't that friendly, y'know. The only time girls are that "friendly" is when there's interest involved.</p>
<p>Also, I have a question: if I was a chick and this was a male professor, would y'all still think he was just being nice or would there be a possibility he was trying to get with her?</p>
<p>"A couple of months ago, I read in Psychology Today that when men see women smile at them, men think it's some kind of sexual invitation when meanwhile, women are smiling simply to be friendly."</p>
<p>-although it's sad, it's true. :-(</p>
<p>i think your being paranoid...forget about the incident and move on with ur life</p>
<p>Yeah...pretty much. The things you've said she's done can really go either way with most people :/</p>
<p>"She mentioned that she saw me in the club the next class. I'd needed to turn in an assignment and ask her a question and she was nice about it. She was a little...touchy-feely. She touched my arm twice.</p>
<p>She's probably just really nice.</p>
<p>I told my friends what'd happened and they said the same thing some of you guys did: dude, HOOK UP WITH YOUR TEACHER!! I didn't tell my girlfriend, though. She asked one of my friends did I try and talk to any girls. He told her no. </p>
<p>I'm probably just exaggerating, but most hot women professors aren't that friendly, y'know. The only time girls are that "friendly" is when there's interest involved.</p>
<p>Also, I have a question: if I was a chick and this was a male professor, would y'all still think he was just being nice or would there be a possibility he was trying to get with her?"</p>
<p>If the prof were a guy, I'd think he was trying to get with her.</p>
<p>Given the update, I think the woman professor is out of line, and is interested in more than being a professor. I suppose that some guys including the OP will think that this is a good thing, but it gives me the creeps.</p>
<p>First, it's against the ethics and rules of all colleges for professors to be dating and/or making passes at students.</p>
<p>Second, think about what kind of person starts displaying a sexual/romantic interest in someone who's in their class, and is presumably much younger than they are. The professor has a lot of power, and I wonder whether she gets her kicks by dating guys whom she feels are inferior to her or are in positions of being controlled by her. She also could be very immature.</p>
<p>"What should I do, if anything?"</p>
<p>The professor."</p>
<p>x2</p>
<p>and ask your girlfriend if she wants to join in on the fun</p>
<p>I'm not that much younger than her. We're both in our 20s.</p>
<p>Still, what she's doing is inappropriate. If she is so attracted to you, she could have the integrity to follow the rules of all colleges and wait to make her move until after she's no longer teaching you. </p>
<p>Apparently you're flattered by her attention, and it's fine with you, but if you didn't like her attention, you could be filing accusations of sexual harassment.</p>
<p>I'm sure that there are guys who post here who can't imagine that any guy would be put off by an attractive female professor's showing an interest in them. However, not every male thinks its fine to bed any interested attractive woman who crosses their path. </p>
<p>According to family lore, my uncle -- who was a very attractive young man -- didn't get his doctorate because one of his female professors was romantically interested in him, and he wasn't interested. As a result, according to the family, he stopped his studies at the masters level.</p>
<p>If you think seriously about the implications of dating/bedding your prof -- what if it ends up that she's interested in a serious or continuing relationship and you're not? Not a comfortable situation to be in with someone who grades you.</p>
<p>One last piece of advice: If you do "go for it," use birth control unless you're interested in becoming a father soon: Don't assume that she is using birth control. One of my friends, a very attractive college prof who looks far younger than her age, is now married to a guy more than a dozen years younger than her as a result of their having unprotected sex on their first date. Apparently, he assumed that an older woman would use protection. Anyway, their kid is cute, and despite the unusual start to their marriage, the family seems very happy.</p>
<p>I hear you, but honestly? It's just terribly flattering, the thought that a slight-older woman finds me attractive. I'm fine with my girlfriend. I don't want to hurt her, especially by going after my professor.</p>
<p>I'd never take it there with her, y'know?</p>
<p>try and remind her of the situation with your behavior by being polite and 'professional' or whatever when you see her, don't act overly friendly and chummy or anything</p>
<p>your girlfriend must own you man...too bad.</p>
<p>Step 1: Flirt/Lead her on
Step 2: Use this power to your advantage and get a good grade
Step 3: ??????
Step 4: Profit</p>
<p>How does my girlfriend "own" me?</p>
<p>Besides the fact that she called to ask if you were being good as if you're her child?</p>
<p>Good point, but she's usually trying to be "cute" when she does it. It annoys me, but I know its only meant to be mildly interrogative.</p>
<p>If your professor was smart, she wouldn't get it on with you.</p>
<p>Why?</p>
<p>Because she could lose her job. And her record would forever be tainted with the fact she slept with one of her students. You could get pulled from the class or college because your academic honesty would be in question. </p>
<p>And to the dumb people who are recklessly encouraging you to sleep with this woman: Grow up. You're not impressing anyone with your lude comments.</p>
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<p>Sex is a natural part of life. No need to be so conservative.</p>
<p>Sex IS a natural part of life; however, it's NOT conservative to offer up the incredibly wise advice that Sweet Ambrosia offered.</p>
<p>Despite what anyone will tell you, it's not a wise idea to use sex to get ahead. Not only will his classmates not appreciate it should they find out (and believe me, they easily could), she's right...he could be pulled from the class AND college. </p>
<p>The professor could lose her job, and from my standpoint (if she truly is coming on to the OP), should lose her job. She's a professional. She's there to educate students. That's where her relationship with the students should end. (Regardless of the fact that her students aren't minors.)</p>
<p>Abuse the advantage and make the most of it.</p>