Thanks for all your thoughtful replies! I especially appreciate that many of your responses are general enough to be helpful for other readers, and not just tailored to the way I described my daughter.
The comments about being in a rural atmosphere are very good and you all raise important points, especially since we live in the suburbs of a largish-metro area. Thatâs one of the things you canât get a sense of during an afternoon visit. Sheâll have time for maybe three or four weekend stays next year, and maybe then she can chose one rural school to get a better sense of what it would be like.
I got to say, what made me laugh is some of the other non-LACs some of you mentioned. I dragged her to UVa over Thanksgiving break, thinking she might fall in love with it, and she feels positive but not overwhelmingly so. Itâs on her current list of schools she plans to apply to, but I think itâs lower than most of the others on her personal ranking. She just doesnât seem interested in large schools. I pushed Vandy a couple of years ago, because I think it offers an education as good as the Ivies but in a less-stressful atmosphere, but she isnât interested in visiting. In March I was planning to take her to Duke, Davidson, Wake, and then to Wash U, which I think could be a good school for her, but they share spring break with hers, so we shifted our attention north.
The other thing isâhaâsomeone said, âgo south?â We live in the south! I think she wants out, although I think sheâd consider a school down here if it blows her away. Iâve told her that I prefer for her to stay on this side of the Mississippi with one exceptionâStanford, which she is sort-of legacy (parent with grad degree there). She isnât interested. OK, I know Wash U is on the wrong side of the Mississippi, but close enough.
On the Myers Briggs personality typing: She is an F, but not extreme or even moderate, although I believe thatâs one scale that shifts as you age. I am surprised by that; I was sure she was a T (for Thinker), and she may end up there in ten years. Someone wondered how she does in situations of conflict. She beats it. Sheâs a quick, logical thinker, who can find holes in arguments and positions, and articulate them in a well-constructed manner better than I can (and Iâm a lawyer, although not a litigator). This is why I always thought she was a T, not an F. Picture her childhood. (1) She argues with her younger sister. (2) Her sister get angry. (3) She destroys her sister with logic. (4) Her sister has no choice but to deck her.
She doesnât plan on being pre-med. She just loves bio, and loves the idea of doing scientific research. Years ago, when she told me that she wanted to go into politics, I told her not to major in poly sci, but to chose her favorite science and major in that, because the politicians making decisions are generally clueless when it comes to science, and will be desperate for advisors who know what theyâre talking about. I donât think thatâs the only reason she plans to major in bio, but I could see her going that route.
I hope thatâs everythingâmy apologies if Iâve missed any questions. Thanks again for all your wonderful thoughts!
EDIT: Re: My comment that she was neutrallish toward Amherst and Wesleyan (and Tufts, tooâsomeone mentioned Tufts). It went something like this: me: How was your trip? D: I loved Williams! Me: Great! What about Amherst? D: Let me tell you why I loved Williams! Me: OKâŠhow about Tufts? D: Wow, I Loooooved Harvard! ⊠So she hasnât said that she hated those schools, they just didnât seem to engage her like some of the other schools she visited, and she hasnât been able to point to anything specific. It could be something as small as the weather on that day or the personality of the tour guideâwho knows?