<p>So, I'm a college sophomore this year and have a new roommate. </p>
<p>For the most part we get along just fine, but when it comes to sleeping habits, this girl is a nightmare. I generally try to get to sleep between midnight and one-thirty and she generally gets to bed between three and five. In the morning, I wake up around 8:30 when I have a 9:30 class and around 10 if I don't. </p>
<p>Our room rules state the light in the room should be out between one am and nine am, which I adhere to. The problem is that I'll turn on the light between 10:30 and 12:30 and she'll get angry and start demanding I turn it off. If she does wake up, she never says anything and will just start slamming things (like our door and her own things) passive-aggressively.</p>
<p>I don't like feeling forced like I have to pause my entire day just for her sleeping habits, but I don't want a big conflict. What should I do?</p>
<p>Have a big conflict or it’ll never change.</p>
<p>Have you tried speaking to her?</p>
<p>I talked to her about it two weeks ago and she said that it wasn’t fair for me to expect her to change her sleeping habits for mine. I don’t want her to change her habits, I just want to be able to use the room, that’s all…</p>
<p>I would talk to your RA about it and see if they can mediate some kind of a discussion. You tried to talk to her and she refused to compromise, you’re out of options. I tend to be up later and sleep later into the day and when I lived with a roommate I made it clear that I expected her to go about her business as usual past 9am and that I didn’t want my sleeping late to affect her. I brought a sleep mask and ear plugs just in case and never used them, you eventually get used to sleeping while other people are going about their business in the same room. Though, at the same time, she didn’t get out of bed at all practically for a month once and got really ****ed at me for opening the blinds at 4pm, so it’s not like we were without conflict on this front.</p>
<p>Your other option is to adhere to the rules you set and let her slam things, which is probably what I would do unless it escalated further. I wouldn’t care if she slammed the door. It’s her problem if she’s all ****y in the morning.</p>
<p>I went to my RA, who was absolutely useless. She basically said to focus on how each of us can fix the problem to which my roommate said that she leaves the room late at night if she studies (which she’s done maybe twice) and has suggested I leave in the morning so my roommate can sleep.</p>
<p>What the hell? Why can’t I just turn on the light at ten AM without some form of petty retaliation. I really don’t think ten AM is the same as six AM.</p>
<p>Haha, what the hell’s wrong with your roommate? If I were you, I’d continue to turn on the lights early in the morning (it’s not really early, though) and **** her off. How amusing. You’re not breaking any rules; she’s just making things harder by being a catty *****.</p>
<p>That’s what I’m going to do. That and talk to the resident hall director to either get this sorted out or try to get me a single. I hate that this girl makes me feel bad for turning on a light at 10. people suck.</p>
<p>1) Do you not have windows? Just open the blinds at 10am and let the sunlight get her. Can’t yell at you for for turning the lights on then, right?</p>
<p>2) Be the bigger person and just find a schedule that works where you don’t have to be in the room until 2 or whenever. Study at a library or work out or eat somewhere or do something between classes so you don’t have to be in your room.</p>
<p>1) She should be leaving the room if she’s doing something late at night when you’re trying to sleep. Mention this again to her.</p>
<p>2) You should keep the lights off in the morning. Why do you even need them on? Go to a study room/the library if that’s your purpose. It’s not like you need the lights to get ready for the day. Not doing this is just as passive aggressive and pathetic as her slamming doors and what not. Also, if you’re going to be this passive aggressive about it, you have no chance of her doing 1.</p>
<p>I have a weird rotating schedule. 3 days a week I’m up at 7 for work. T/Th I can sleep until 11 if I want. And you can bet good money that I am going to appreciate every last minute up until 11 since I don’t go to sleep until 2ish on those nights.
Just because you think 10 is ‘late’ and fine for the morning to begin doesn’t mean everyone has to follow your schedule.</p>
<p>^
- pack your bag at night.
- pick out clothes at night.
- get dressed in dark. That is not difficult at all.</p>
<p>voila. no lights needed.</p>
<p>If the op has a window, there should be some natural light anyway, even if the blinds are closed.</p>
<p>Obviously you’re a boy.</p>
<p>Obviously you’re wrong. Don’t make assumptions when you don’t know jack about what you’re assuming.
I’m a girl. And I’m fairly ‘girly.’</p>
<p>Point out 1 thing that can’t be done in the dark.
Anything that falls under the “girl” category can be done in a bathroom, where there’s a mirror and plenty of light.</p>
<p>There is no need to aggravate the op’s roommate. It will just cause more grief for the op since it’s clear that the roommate is a passive aggressive nut.</p>
<p>I don’t think the light in my room last year was ever turned on during daylight. This year it sure isn’t, I can never remember that the light switch is behind my loft. </p>
<p>Then again, I did walk around today for six hours with my pants on backwards. But that had nothing to do with the light. XD</p>
<p>The RA suggested opening the blind when we made our contract, but my roommate nixed that. Apparently she is a “very” light sleeper, which I feel isn’t my responsibility to. I’m rarely loud and never before she’s awake (I don’t like loud noises).</p>
<p>The thing is that if I were getting up at 6 am, I would understand. But all I’m trying to do is get my day started, and I never have the light on before 10:30. </p>
<p>The other thing is that she doesn’t have a job or any particular reason to be upset at 10 am. I’m all for a late night once in a while, but feeling like I’m on lockdown in a room I pay rent to each month doesn’t seem fair at all. I didn’t come to college to sleep all day, and I understand a lot of people do just that, but I’m graduating a year early and trying to get into law school which requires lots of time management.</p>
<p>There’s no way to have the blinds open a few inches? For me it is bright enough to do everything at around 8 am just from the light that passes the blinds on the side. </p>
<p>My roommate and I have an unwritten agreement where, whoever goes to sleep first will turn off the main light and the other will turn on their desk lamp. You definitely should be able to use your desk lamp at any time of day.</p>
<p>If someone is going to sleep in they should be able to sleep when it is somewhat bright out.</p>
<p>I usually sleep in and I do agree that someone who gets up early and throws on the light is extremely annoying, but that is at a point where I haven’t gotten enough sleep yet (like its 6am and I went to sleep at 3am). Like, if I got up to go to the bathroom and came back with the blinds open I’d be pretty frustrated, but if its 10 I’d expect people to be up and wouldn’t mind.</p>