Dilemma with my Brother's HS Graduation

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<p>Hi everyone! I need some advice. My brother is graduating from high school Saturday at 10am. He told me a couple of months ago that he was not participating in the ceremony. I asked him again a month ago just to confirm before I made other plans and again was told he definitely wasn't participating. </p>

<p>In the meantime, a friend of mine is planning to stay with me tomorrow night and we're getting a large group together to go see Sex and the City followed by a Girls' Night Out which is incredibly rare for both of us after being married several years and living three hours apart. Also, my husband and I have volunteered to work a fundraiser for a civic organization that we're members of Saturday night from 5-10:30pm. My husband is also co-chairing the project so there's no way we can not be there since we have already committed.</p>

<p>That brings me to last Tuesday. My dad called to tell me that my brother has changed his mind and has decided to walk in case we are able to attend. The ceremony is a 3 and a 1/2 hour drive from where I live which means leaving at 6:30am, staying for the ceremony and possibly 15 minutes afterwards (just long enough to see my brother and congratulate him) and heading back home in time for the fundraiser. </p>

<p>I am really torn about this. I'd love to be there, but with everything else that's already been planned, since he said he definitely wasn't participating, we are going to be hard pressed for time and we would barely get to see him. </p>

<p>What would you do? Any advice would be much appreciated!</p>

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<p>As a guy with 2 older siblings that I am pretty close with, I personally wouldn't really stress over one of them missing my graduation ceremony...especially if I told them twice that I wasn't going to walk anyway. It's just not the type of thing that us 16-19 year olds are concerned with haha. That said, you obviously know your kid brother better than I do : ) Call him and explain the situation, and ask him straight-up if he'd mind if you missed it.</p>

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<p>honestly if my older sister didn't go to my graduation i wouldn't really care, i would prefer it if she did but since you have other things planned i'd understand. and since your brother doesn't seem like he cares that much about graduation either i doubt he's going to be in tears... unless you're like super super close to him and the only person in the world he has a bond with</p>

<p>just call him up and say congrats and send him a card</p>

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<p>if you decide to not go, also try to set up a date to see him and the rest your family for a little while, and have like a minicelebration or something</p>

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<p>Definitely visit him before he goes of to college. Maybe you can go solo while your husband takes care of everything?</p>

<p>Get a radar detector and speed down the highway.</p>