@philbegas She kind of did “The feeling of living a double life because of hiding a secret is just horrible.” I can’t imagine how tough this is for a teen and how it could be causing all sorts of mental trauma. I mean I agree maybe hiding it is the right answer, maybe. But that’s a lot of pressure and we don’t know how she’s really feeling inside.
Kids should be able to talk to their parents about anything and expect unconditional love. I’d hate to see her feel worse and worse about it without someone to help her cope. The right therapist can be great to help sort out emotions, provide better coping skills and even help her to think through what everyone is saying here on this thread.
Also @MatzoBall it is not true that a therapist has to divulge information if you are a minor, in fact, it’s the opposite for adolescents over the age of 14 (which was a huge surprise to me when I took my underage daughter to therapy last year). There is a short list of things they have to divulge - and not necessarily just to the parents - if you are a danger to yourself or others, etc. They make parent and child sign off on this. So you would know exactly what can be divulged and what cannot.
Also Astro77 makes good points.