<p>kelseyg: I know your post was based on certain assumptions…only quoted to bounce off of your point, not refute it :)</p>
<p>I just have to believe that if the younger child’s motivations really are selfish or unreasonable (bear in mind that “expensive private” does not necessarily mean “prestigious”), then he would be made to change his plan or to take responsibility for it, and transferring funds would be a non-issue. But no matter how I fill in all the unknowns, I struggle to get this situation so ethically muddled as to warrant a letter to the NYTimes. It’s only the unknowns that are keeping it interesting. Perhaps it just boils down to the type of accounts + the family’s dynamics, or maybe I’m seeing it as more black and white than it should be. Regardless, it IS a good situation to ponder, I just find it way too vague to really judge.</p>