<p>Ethically, the money is the older kids and he shouldn’t have to share. The problem arose because the money should never have been set up that way in the first place. </p>
<p>I was the beneficiary of an educational trust that was one large lump of money for three of us to only be used for education. When the youngest turned 28 years old, if any was left it was split equally three ways. I chose a state school. My brother chose a trade school. My sister chose both an expensive LAC and a private grad school. My sister sucked almost all the money out of that account, but neither my brother nor I felt entitled to it. We could have gone that route, too.</p>