<p>My dad is pushing my mom to divorce soon; early next year. He told us today. (8 days before Christmas) This declaration doesn't surprise me because I knew they would sinse I was a baby. However, they always agreed to do it after my high school years. My "dad" never loved me and I never loved him. My mom doesn't want to divorce yet and said she won't sign any papers. I don't know much about the process but does anyone know if the couple has to agree in order to divorce? My mom is terribly worried for me...Studies show that girls that have experience divorce have terrible relationships with the opposite sex. Thank you for reading this. I have never felt so miserable in my life. :(</p>
<p>^ Well, since you know the study, it might not apply to you. It's like this. If you know the future and know A might happen, you'll strive to avoid A. In the same way, knowing that girls that have experience divorce have terrible relationships with the opposite sex might help you avoid potential terrible relationships. </p>
<p>This study really has much to do with those people affected by divorce at an early age, by lacking a father figure(as most child custody goes to the mother) many girls grow up to become attached to the wrong person, unable to see the signs. There's also a bunch of psychological mumbo jumbo that I read similar to this but you'll do fine. </p>
<p>I'm sorry about your situation. I hope everything works out for you...</p>
<p>I am so sorry for you, EASD. I will keep you in my prayers.</p>
<p>Thank you everyone. I don't think I will have a problem with guys, but my mom worries that I will. The only problem I can see is that I tend to be pessimistic but that may not be a result of my family.</p>
<p>Wow, your mom is being super dramatic. Just be thankful that you got to have both your parents in one house for that long, you're definitely the blessed one among us with divorced parents.</p>
<p>Just because your parents are divorcing, doesn't automatically mean you're doomed to have sucky relationships. Just be proactive. My father is a terrible role model, so I'm hoping I don't get screwed over when it comes to relationships. Trying to stay optimistic.</p>
<p>my parents divorced when i was little and frankly, as difficult as two houses has been for me, i would not want them to have stayed together because to have them both under the same roo would probably be more emotonlly difficult for me, as they were both fighting.</p>
<p>Yes I see all of your points and I do realize their factuality. However, I am really wondering if my mom HAS to divorce him just because HE wants to. I know I'm not doomed. All my life I have wanted them to divorce and I still do but I can see this is tearing my mom apart. Does anyone the the answer to my question?</p>
<p>I think that parents on the Parent Cafe would have more info for you. </p>
<p>But, correct me if I'm wrong, the divorce proceedings take a much shorter time if both parties agree, but if one party pursues divorce against the wishes of another party, the proceedings may take up to a year. </p>
<p>So it's possible that your dad could divorce your mom without her consent (providing she doesn't sign the papers), but he'd better be prepared to wait a long time for his divorce.</p>
<p>This is all gleaned from movies (:P) so maybe you should get a second opinion on the Parent cafe.</p>
<p>Don't worry, you'll get through this. Don't let your parents' problems become your own.</p>
<p>It depends on what state you're in if both parties have to agree to a divorce.</p>
<p>I guess that makes sense.</p>
<p>OP, which state are you from?</p>
<p>My parents got divorced when I was 14 because my dad had an affair with the neighbor's wife. We knew the neighbors for 4.5 years prior. It was pretty screwed up... and now my dad remarried and had 2 more kids. I have learned a lot from all of that, as well as my own experiences (though I haven't been in any real relationships). Through this and lots of reading, I understand how relationships work, and why they don't. This will only help me in the future. Don't feel sorry for yourself and think that your life will suck, because YOU make your own life, no one else.</p>
<p>hey...good luck with everything/coping.....</p>
<p>Hey Girl, still sending you good karma. I hope everything is going alright.</p>
<p>I'm so sorry sweetie, my parents have divorced and remarried twice and it wasn't any easier the 2nd time. But I know at least in my state they do have to agree unless there's like circumstances, but you don't seem to have any. </p>
<p>That's crappy that he did it during the holidays, but either way Merry Christmas. </p>
<p>PS: If that's how he's gonna treat you guys then you don't need him anyways. </p>
<p>Hope some of this helps. Sending you luck.</p>