<p>I go to an all guys high school and we're having the junior prom in may. I just invited my date to the prom and im wondering if we should divide up the prom costs, seeing as its my schools prom. The costs break up as: $100 prom bid for the both of us, upwards of $100 for the limo. Its semiformal for the guys so we just have to wear a suit, which we wear everyday, meaning that i dont have to rent a tux. She doesnt need to buy a dress either, since she already has one. So basically theres around $200 for the evening. Should I pay for the entire night, or should we divide up the costs. Both of our families are pretty well off but i dont have money dropping from the sky.</p>
<p>If you can afford it, you shoud pay everything. After all, it's your prom, not hers. If you have a good relationship with her and talk honestly and openly with her about issues, you could approach her about spliting the costs, but only if the prom is a financial challenge for you.</p>
<p>i don't know about paying for everything... i'd say pay for your own tux... pay for your bid and hers since you asked her unless she really wants to pay for herself. if you're getting a limo you pay for it cuz it's like "you providing the ride". if you're going out to dinner you pay... and the rest of the costs... dress... hair... nails etc just leave those up to her</p>
<p>Thanks for your posts. I got alot of different feedback from friends so I didnt know what to do... Thanks a lot.</p>
<p>I think you should pay for it. I have always been taught that you should treat a lady nice like that, and plus, from what it sounds (please correct me if I'm wrong), since you wear a suit and all to school, your financial situation is not so bad.</p>
<p>I disagree with some of the above posters. It depends on your "relationship"... if you're taking her as a friend, then split the cost of the ticket and the limo. If you're not really friends and you asked her our of the blue, then you foot the bill. I'm a female, but I don't expect my date to pay... even when I'm dating a guy I don't think he should pay for everything... opening doors, yes... but paying, no.</p>
<p>I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum, I'm a girl who asked my date. Here is my thinking on the issue, I'm paying for tickets etc. The guy I'm going with is doing me a favor by accepting my offer to go with me to the senior prom. I feel that since I asked him, it is my responsibility to take care of certain expenses. There are also certain places where you can cut costs, this situation may be unique, but my uncle is driving us. He has a classic car, and he made the offer. If it's within your budget to take care of expenses for a date you asked, you should. That's my opinion.</p>
<p>I agree with jessetfan. Its not necessarily the male that has to pay, but the one that asks. Of course you shouldn't pay for hair, nails, and dress and stuff...</p>
<p>are you going to her prom? if so how are you planning on paying/splitting that cost. in my situation i'm going to two proms, mine and his, and we decided to each pay for half. i could have paid for all of mine and he could have paid for all of his. but one of us would have had to pay more than the other and since we are in a relationship that seemed most reasonable. But i think it depends on your relationship. personally though, even if i was going with a friend to his i wouldn't let him pay for me. for many reasons, one i dont like to feel like i "owe" the other person something, and i think that strict gender roles are passe.</p>
<p>IMO, it depends on your relationship with her and how you would feel if you had to pay for everything. If you can talk comfortably about money with her, then do so b/c you may end up feeling like prom wasn't worth it if you pay for the whole thing. You want a night that is memorable, yet affordable. It's a difficult balance, believe me!</p>
<p>agreed again, depends on your relationship. if u can afford it without too much of a hitch... id say u should pay for it... just be a man... if you are friends... and ur a little strapped for cash its okay to ask.. but dont plan on dating her after... if u find her to be potential for a relationship... then u should definitely pay for it. traditionally, the guy pays for tix, dinner,transportation, tux obviously.... the girl's main responsibility is buying a dress, getting makeup, hair done etc. basically, you're a guy, give it up... ur always going to have to pay. </p>
<p>my personal opinion is that you should plan on paying for everything and if she's really insistant on paying for something like pictures or something... (say no its okay at least once.... and if she still insists, you could allow her to do so)</p>
<p>NO. Definitely pay for everything (unless the girl offers, which is rare). As a guy, you're expected to pay for everything at my school, especially if you ask the girl first.</p>
<p>well it depends on the girl... if she insisits on paying let her pay. otherwise just pay. this is the case if you're both from the same school.</p>
<p>if you're taking a girl from another school to your prom you should definitely pay for everything... cuz you invited her.</p>
<p>if you're going with a girl from another school to her prom.. she may want to pay for the bid since she's the one inviting you... if that's the case you should pay for food and pictures and whatever else...</p>
<p>You should pay for it, if you can, since it's completely your prom (not hers). She'll probably be paying around $200 for nails, hair, make-up, etc. and more than that if she needs new shoes or something - so your costs will even out. Plus, as m5power said, she'll probably insist on paying for something along the way - that's what I usually try to do, even if it's just a tip or something when I go out to dinner with a guy.</p>