Do any other college freshmen feel like their college dreams have been decimated?

<p>To sound as non-pessimistic as possible, does anyone else feel like their freshman year didn't go exactly as planned or hoped for and it kinda changed your whole outlook on college and the rest of your years at whatever university you attend? I know Spring semester is only half-way through, but basically 3/4 of the year is already gone and I can tell my experience probably isn't going to change much. LOL. My parents told me all their long stories about how many friends they made and experiences they had when they were in college, but, things just didn't turn out the same way for me, so basically my first year feels like a chore and any potential fun I could have had was wasted. But then again, I'm kicking myself for being lazy and only applying to my one dream school....and not getting in, so I ended up at community college. </p>

<p>I know I'm only a freshman and still have 3 years left and I could turn things around, but the rose-colored glasses came off and I just don't have any college spirit anymore. Part of me is saying "I just wanna get this ***** over with and get my degree and be out" and another part of me is realizing that is probably the last few years I have left of fully enjoying my youth before getting tossed into the workforce and taking on full responsibilities as an adult so I really want to live it up.</p>

<p>Does anyone feel similar?</p>

<p>Ricky,
I am not a freshman, but a mom. When I read your post, I can feel the disappointment and perhaps loss of dream and vision. I think that many of us may encounter situations like this, but perhaps in different ways.</p>

<p>Although this year has not gone as planned, you do indeed have the future ahead of you. Start to plan now. What would you like to do differently? Do you wish to transfer to another college? Give it thought now so that you have a good game-plan. You might think about clubs, or organizations that interests you therefore connecting you to more people (who may indeed become friends in the future). Maybe there is a local church in the area that you could visit and be a part of a college/career group.</p>

<p>You have every opportunity to make something work out here-- to help make these college years more fulfilling. By the way, just because you graduate from college does not mean that you can no longer have fun! You have a great life ahead as you go into your career years and future. Stay on task and strong!</p>

<p>If you can afford it, start the process soon for transfers. Some less selective colleges are still taking transfer applications for the Fall.</p>

<p>Also, look for an organization to get involved with at your current college. There are many students in the same situation - who want to make friends, but have trouble as commuters.</p>

<p>Just remember that you always have control over the future, no matter what happens. You can always make tomorrow better. Or worse, if you want.</p>