That’s where the rub is. Is she smart enough to walk that line? And enticing to whom? (We have a few public figures in the news now behaving in very provocative ways, and enticing some people, but repelling many others).
I do agree that she should go to a school where she feels comfortable, but I don’t actually agree that it matters if admissions knows everything about her. There are plenty of things admissions doesn’t find out, and often it is best for everyone.
OP, if she is high stats, Swarthmore is a school to look at.