<p>I was in the computer lab in my college after a class. It was about 10 minutes or so before another class would start. The professor for the next class came in about 5-7 minutes before the start time and told me very harshly that I had five minutes to leave. He was within his right to ask me to leave, but something about the way he spoke to me did not sit well with me. Something about his tone really upset me and I did not appreciate it. I contemplating setting up a meeting with him to explain that I did not appreciate his tone, but that I forgave him and hoped to build a better relationship with him in the future. I don't know if I'm just being a big baby. What are your thoughts.</p>
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<p>That you need to brush up on your ■■■■■■■■. This isn’t going to get anyone riled up.</p>
<p>Sorry that you think I’m a ■■■■■. I’m being sincere.</p>
<p>On the assumption that this is sincere (I’m in a generous mood today, what can I say?)</p>
<p>The guy doesn’t even remember saying anything to you. Get over it and move on.</p>
<p>To be candid, if you scheduled an appointment to have that conversation with me, I’d wonder what planet you were from. And after you left my office, I’d go tell all my colleagues about the absurdly self-important undergraduate who “forgave” me for telling him he’d have to vacate the room where I was about to teach.</p>
<p>…Do you know this professor? Or is he just some stranger that teaches some random class?</p>
<p>If it’s the former, forget about it and move on. It’s not worth it.</p>
<p>If it’s the latter, some people are rude. Forget about it and move on. You can’t schedule a meeting with every random stranger who spoke to you in what you considered a rude way.</p>
<p>Thanks everyone. I’ve always been one to be a little to sensitive so I wanted to get another perspective on the situation. I really wish I could just get over stuff like all other people. I’m been trying to figure out how to do that for years.</p>
<p>In my opinion, it just takes practice. Or if you’re ever in a position where you have to deal with a lot of people, you just learn to get over it. It’s something that used to bother me too, but then I learned to just complain about it to get it out of my system and then forget about it. It’s not worth your energy, but it takes practice to stop worrying about things like that.</p>
<p>Let it go.</p>
<p>Yeah, let it go.</p>
<p>If I was in that professors position, and had to meet with an undergrad that I’d never met so they could tell me that the forgive me for something I did not even remember doing…the impression would not be good.</p>
<p>OP: You need to grow up and/or seek counseling.</p>
<p>I’ve had that happen to me too! Now I jus go to the library, no more free printing I guess :/</p>
<p>@tomofboston: Grow up and get therapy huh? I never do get responses like these from people that think that changing personality flaws is that simple. I already know I’m in the wrong and I’ve been working on it for years. One of my strategies is to get different perspectives to keep myself from doing something I will regret, as I did here. Thank for trying but its obvious you have no earthly idea how things work.</p>
<p>I do think therapy would be good in your case. It’s not about a “character flaw” - it’s about figuring out why this made you so upset and how you can better cope with it. You are going to get far worse things thrown at you at life. If you can’t cope well with this, you’re going to be a wreck later in life. Nothing wrong with therapy to figure out why this happens and try to fix it or learn better coping mechanisms.</p>
<p>All of you that are telling him to grow up are wrong! That teacher needs to get told who pays them. You find out who it is and say don’t talk to me like that cause I pay for you to be here and tell them that if you ever get them you will give them a bad teacher rating. They shouldn’t be rude to you unless you are mean to them. They work for you and they should respect you and talk politely.</p>
<p>Trolling? Therapy? Grow up? Ya’ll kidding me. Stay classy, CC.</p>
<p>If a random person rudely tells me to “get out” I would give them a mouthful especially considering that his class don’t start for another few minutes. Otherside has the right idea to make amends and build a mutual respect or at least get an explanation as to why the professor acted in such a rude tone.</p>
<p>This is the epitome of a fleeting conflict. Just let it go. Unfortunately not everybody in the world is pleasant to talk to.</p>
<p>Personality flaws? Everyone is different, one personality isn’t really better than another. They go together like ying & yang. </p>
<p>Its like saying being an introvert is a flaw. Sure in certain situations it can be but its always an advantage in some situations. </p>
<p>If you get easily mad or sensitive to how you were treated its ok to vent, as long as you don’t dwell on that incidence.</p>
<p>People aren’t going to be nice to everyone on a daily basis. That’s a fact of life. Most of the time people will be pleasant or merely acceptable but sometimes people are going to talk down to you or treat you in a way that makes you feel bad or unwanted or otherwise unpleasant. I’ve experienced it all. Sometimes, they’re just having a bad day. I remember one person who talked to me like that. It was quite obvious he was rude. His body language only reinforced that he was being rude. </p>
<p>I really wanted to go back one day and snap something harsh back, but instead I held my tongue and simply asked how he was doing one day and we had a nice little bit of chit-chat. I think he was simply having a bad day. </p>
<p>Regarding whether you should see the professor:</p>
<p>a) Are you a student of his?
b) Is this a chronic problem?</p>
<p>If both answers are no then it’s probably not worth seeing him. Just go your separate way and move on. People are going to be people - that is - unpredictable and sometimes nice and sometimes nasty. You can either deal with it and learn to move on - that is - be confident enough in yourself to not be affected by what someone might say to you - or be forever unhappy as there will always be that unpleasant person who makes your day unpleasant. Don’t be the latter. Take confidence in yourself and try to be the opposite of those unpleasant people. A simple thank you or smile goes a long way and you might cause someone else to feel better and cause them to be nicer to other people too.</p>
<p>judging from the post - I highly doubt the professor was even that rude. Probably didn’t throw on some puppy dog eyes and ask the OP if they could pretty pretty pretty please with cherry on top leave before class starts but unless the prof literally kicked in the door and started yelling “get the [expletive] out of here!” at the top of his lungs, the idea that this “interaction” required anything beyond a dirty look and OP leaving the room or saying “ok I’ll be out by then” is absurd.</p>
<p>If OP was just curious about whether it was appropriate, then no, he/she probably doesn’t need therapy, but as hazy said, this is the epitome of the type of thing where it’s ok to be offended, but within 30 seconds you probably should already be over it.</p>