My question is why did your parents let you apply to colleges that they ultimately won’t pay for or are too expensive? Were you expecting better financial aid or merit from the college that is your #1?
As a general rule, I think kids need to embrace their college to do well in school and as long as the finances work, we parents need to have faith in our young adults that they know what type of college experience they want and will thrive in. Sometimes we need to let go and stop helicopter parenting.