<p>I know ND doesn't let you in the opposite sex's dorm after a certain hour, does it actually work, like do people follow the restrictions? Does it actually cut down on the number of people having sex or anything?</p>
<p>I don't go to Notre Dame (not yet, at least) but the fact of the matter is that if college students (and teenagers) want to bump uglies, then they are going to bump uglies. Parietals are probably a mild inconvenience at most.</p>
<p>There are people who will break parietals but overall it is much more effective than one would think. They watch you pretty closely and if you break them, may God have mercy on your soul. Personally, having someone over for a night isn't worth the risk of being kicked out of the dorms, but that is me.</p>
<p>As for sex, perhaps it cuts down on it some (it is, of course, verboten unless you are married) but there is still the rest of the day.</p>
<p>I agree with the others, if people are determined to have sex, parietals won't stop them. It is an inconvenience at times, like when I want to hang out with my boyfriend or when I'm trying to study with people and then we have to move to a different location when midnight rolls around. However, parietals definitely has it's benefits. Living in a women's dorm, it's nice to know that for 9 hours, there won't be any men (except of course for our dorm's priest) around and it's "just the girls."
But back to the sex thing, I stayed a weekend with my sister at Villanova last year. And I've been on other college campuses. Sex isn't talked about as much or as much of a focus at ND as it is at other colleges. At ND, "hook-up" means make-out 9 times outta 10. Yeah, it's college. But if a person were to come to ND expecting to have sex all the time, or at least expecting to hear about it all the time...ND probably isn't the school for that person.
While I am annoyed by parietals at times, I respect ND's stance...it's a good reflection of the university's Catholic values.</p>
<p>I think people are confusing policies. Parietal Hours are the times you CAN be in opposite sex dorms. It has nothing to do with sex, but to improve community. Sexual Misconduct is another violation that can occur at any time, and has nothing to do with parietals. I use to like that fact that there were no parties or girls over after a certain time. Its not a restriction; there are plenty of places to go after hours.</p>
<p>As far as 'Sexual Misconduct' is concerned, this is straight from the handbook...</p>
<p>"Sexual misconduct, including, but not limited to
a. sexual intercourse without consent,
b. unwelcome touching, or
c. other offensive sexual behavior
is a serious violation. A student found responsible for a
violation of this policy shall be subject to disciplinary
suspension or permanent dismissal."</p>
<p>I don't know why you brought that up since not only are those rules at every school, they are laws.</p>
<p>i know there are exceptions, but are the girls at nd for the most part prude, or is there hradly a difference from a state school?</p>
<p>Many would disagree with you saying that it is not a restriction, and I can definitely say that the sex thing is a big part of it. Wanting there to be privacy and quiet after a certain hour and trying to build community as well are certainly some of the most important aims, but reducing sex is a huge part of the aim as well. And while there are places to go after hours, it really can be a buzzkill considering ND parties end a couple hours before they would at a state school or one without parietals</p>
<p>AMC, while I have never attended a state school I can certainly speak on anecdotal evidence from friends and family, and the overriding impression is that the ND girls are much more prude(or proper, or whatever you like to call it). Not that they won't have relationships or hook-up or anything, but the effort involved is more substantial.</p>
<p>I meant Sexual Union.....not Misconduct.</p>
<p>I have to chuckle when I read through these kinds of threads...sounds exactly like the discussions I remember from my ND undergrad days in the late 70's: everyone complained about parietals; everyone appreciated that the rules made it easy to have privacy from the opposite sex; lots of couples had sex and, yes, even spent the night. It's nice to know some things just don't change...</p>
<p>aw rly? that's cool. did you meet your husband at ND? do you think you could share some stories so we're not left wondering what really goes on ? what has the ND name done for its alumni? haha i have so many questions, sry! :)</p>
<p>dbear..you seem quite interested in the sexual happenings at ND. It's a bit strange that you wish to know about an alumni's relationship 30 years ago.</p>
<p>haha i'm just seeing if she got her happy ending? idk. 'and i'm not particularly promiscuous or anything, i was just curious since it seems like a whole different environment than the rest of america right now, honestly. i like it :)</p>