<p>If you think that your high school grades will equate to the success of your future...your perspective on life is seriously out of whack.</p>
<p>^ um, good just putting words into my mouth. Grades in high school will help you achieve success in the future - while failing high school will not doom you to a pathetic substinence existence, it SEVERELY increases your likliehood of doing so, or not achieving the amount of success that many others who have exerted their effrot and maximized their potential enjoy.</p>
<p>This is all probability, but frankly having a obsessive social life doesn't help your future one bit. I think we can all agree on that. I'm not one of those anti-social nazis who cries that social life is evil, but I'm saying that obviously i feel my chances in life are infinetely superior to the morons who spend 24/7 hanging out and wasting time - during break, weekends, and friday nights is social time, while those morons who do it on the weekdays from 4-12 are just screwing themselves - and frankly I'm happy they are, because that's less competition!</p>
<p>man... i used to.</p>
<p>i used to hang out with my friends every fri/sat and do all sorts of things - b-ball, mall roaming, random stuff. a really diverse bunch, too, in terms of gender and hobbies. as of late, i feel so drained of energy that i don't feel like doing these things anymore. senior year is arguably the most miserable year of my life -- i just don't care. i go to school and waste away my life in classes that i will never, ever, want to utilize. well, it's just one specific class, but yeah. i feel really alienated from my "friends", who, while are pretty cool to hang out with, are not really "friends" in the sense that they aren't reliable/ are backstabbers. and to be frank, i dislike all the other people at my school. not immensely, but i literally dread having to have conversations with them. i feel like sleeping for the next 3 months until i receive my admissions decisions. then i can maybe enjoy my LIFE. but until then, i'll be dreading waking up at 6:00 AM every morning to go through the same mundane routine.</p>
<p>i can't wait for college... and freedom. HS is just... terrible</p>
<p>^ very true. Once you're in college the people as a whole will be more mature (except in a few cases), and that is where you find your true lasting and meaningful friendships</p>
<p>What do you mean by a social life? The whole winter break I've been playing Call of Duty 4 on Xbox Live everyday sleeping at 2 am, waking up at 1 pm.</p>
<p>I definitely do not study all day, in fact this whole winter break, I haven't done anything related to school, except for finishing a novel, and I just skimmed that book today. Going to read multiple summary websites to cover for it.</p>
<p>But for school, I think there is a medium between an overachiever and a failure. People here seem to be on the extremes, basically if you aren't an overachiever you = a failure. If you don't get into an ivy league, your life isn't over. You're probably in the position that most of the country wish they could be in.</p>
<p>some people, like me, kinda enjoy it</p>
<p>thesmiths - find an activity you enjoy that involves friends. I play tennis and play drums in a band, so even if I have not been into "hanging out" as much during senior year, I still get to see my friends and have a good time regularly.</p>
<p>kelper - break the habit, man. free yourself. there's more to life than vicariously killing people.</p>
<p>^ unless its halo 3, then its ok</p>
<p>Getting blackout drunk with boys = social life?
In the end, the first student is going to be accepted. You can't account your lack of achievements on account of "Yeah I have a life."</p>
<p>Well its completely possible to have a social life and good stats. I mean i get good grades, take hard classes, and have good SAT score blah blah blah. But i stilll go out every weekend, and hang out with freinds, go to the movies, even have random dance parties. I tink balance is important. I mean even if my school did offer like 20 APS, i wouldnt take more than 4 or 5 as I am doing rightnow. I dont know, I always believe that theres more to high school than constant studying and doing things just to boost transcripts or spending thousands of dollars on summer programs. I feel like find a couple of things you enjoy, get leadership opsitions in those, work hard but also have FUN! dont lose you childhood :)</p>
<p>Saying that people in college are so much more mature seems a little ridiculous to me. Here's some things that I have seen college students doing:</p>
<p>Getting wasted and jumping between hotel balconies-college students
Cheating constantly-college students
Refusing to learn absolutely anything-college students
Getting into massive credit card debt-college students</p>
<p>There are certainly mature people too but it doesn't seem like there are too many more than at high school. You know who does gain some maturity though? The people who didn't go to college and have some real life experience and struggle, because thats where maturity comes from.</p>
<p>Many people go to college and still have no social life, and while there are many people that previously had no social life and acquire one when they go to college but those people also usually have changed a lot. </p>
<p>Now, as for equating drinking with having a social life. While drinking is not necessary for a good social life, there is some correlation there. The same way there is a correlation between success in school and success in life(atleast if you define success in life as career success). The people that I know that drink mostly have social lives, while pretty much all the people that I know that just sit at home alone staring at a screen don't drink.</p>
<p>In the end what is the point. Is it how happy you've been, how much you've contributed, what other people think of you. If your justifying the unsatisfying nature of your life up to this point by thinking that torturing yourself now will result in success later then what if you get hit by a bus tomorrow or your career is railroaded at some point or your house floods and you end up on the street, then what. Even if things worked out and you have a great career and your critically acclaimed does it really matter, will that make you truly happy, will you look back at your life and think that it was worth it for the big house your standing in. </p>
<p>At times I have both done almost no work and party'd all the time and I've worked all the time with little social life and neither were the way to go. I'm for balance. Life's a gamble and I'm hedging my bets to try to achieve maximum happiness the whole time.</p>
<p>lol no college deinitely doesn't give u maturity. working for $ and supporting ur family, tho, does.</p>
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No actually, I'm just bitter with the superiority attitude. I tend to agree with what you say (better grades / academic life increases the probability of a better life becauses of financial stability or whatever), but I guess I'm "one of those morons who hang out with friends from 4-12 every day". We'll see what happens in the end, I suppose. ;)</p>
<p>Cheers,
Alex</p>
<p>Of course I have a social life. I think most people on here should have a social life. If you don't then......I just don't know...</p>
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No actually, I'm just bitter with the superiority attitude. I tend to agree with what you say (better grades / academic life increases the probability of a better life becauses of financial stability or whatever), but I guess I'm "one of those morons who hang out with friends from 4-12 every day". We'll see what happens in the end, I suppose. </p>
<p>Cheers,
Alex
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<p><em>drinks to the cheers of victory</em></p>
<p>And on a side note, I never said one should not have a HS social life. Thats what friday nights and weekends are for! "The Golden Mean" as Aristotle said - dont indulge too much obsessively in a social life or you will become a useless person who serves no purpose in life, but dont get too cooped up in academics or you'll live a unfufilled life, devoid of all the experiences of the other side.</p>
<p>I'm really close with my friends at school, but I almost never am invited to parties or to just hang out (except with a very choice few). I get ribbed a lot for being such a serious student, but people generally like me.</p>
<p>People who know when to study, and people who know when to party. People who are able to manage their time well, those types of people are successful.</p>
<p>Semiconservative attitude FTMFW. </p>
<p>Of course I'm social, I play CoD online...</p>
<p>(if we cant get this humor then Futurama is above all of our heads)</p>
<p>You know, those people that only work and work and work and work may end up in Harvard and the prez of a fortune fivehunndred company at 20 but they are oftentimes unhappy people</p>