<p>I feel that way sometimes. I am nothing like my college friends: they are hard working, athletic, positive and seemingly happy. I am the opposite: I slack off, look like a couch potato, have a cynical way of thinking and almost always feel angry. I believe that if people at my school didn't treat me like an outsider, like I don't belong there, like I am beneath them, I wouldn't feel so angry, but it's possible that if that were to happen I'd feel the same amount of anger except that I would attribute it to something else. Does anyone feel the same way?</p>
<p>I would guess that perhaps you aren’t ready for college, but I don’t know you, just from what you just said and all. It doesn’t matter how smart you are if you don’t come prepared to work hard and if you aren’t emotionally prepared to enjoy it.</p>
<p>I say that because when I started college I wasn’t ready. I somehow matured overnight and then it was okay, but I am pretty lucky it worked out that way or I would never have been able to meet my potential.</p>
<p>Assuming that I am not emotionally prepared for college, what do you want me to do? Drop out of college and work at the supermarket for a year or two while I find the desire to emulate college students?</p>
<p>And regarding hard work, as long as I pass my classes with decent grades and keep my GPA above a decent level, who cares how hard I work? It’s not my fault that my friends feel upset at the fact that I get away with the same grades but without studying as much as they do. I know some very intelligent people next to whom I feel like an idiot. That doesn’t mean that I have to secretly hold a grudge against them.</p>
<p>You may find you hit a wall and that not applying yourself doesn’t work anymore-- as I did my second semester. And I would care that I or someone is spending a fortune for me to learn nothing and just get the grades.</p>
<p>And I don’t know what you’d do. I was in community college, which was less strenuous, and by the time I transferred I had matured and was ready to handle the responsibility. By the sounds of it you hate college all around, based on your other threads, so I wonder why you wouldn’t just go home and work and get your first two years out of the way at a CC so you’re not so miserable anyway.</p>
<p>If I were struggling in college I would transfer to a community college or a technical school. Since I am doing well in college I will continue doing what I am doing and hope that one day my grades will open some doors.</p>
<p>I would argue you are struggling if you aren’t doing anything useful with your time and you hate it there, but that’s just me. Do whatever you want.</p>
<p>Hey bro I’m in a similar situation. Doing pretty decently in college, but I don’t think I’ve ever said I’m 100% (or 99%) happy here. Sure I have some good times here and there, but overall I’m often feeling down about it. I don’t blame it on the people though… I think I’m just not ready for full-on college. I’m considering moving back home and getting a job while studying at either the local CC or UMD, and then transferring to another school (if I go to the local CC I’d transfer into UVA or VA Tech most likely, since they have a guaranteed transfer program).</p>
<p>It’s not just the grades man. What good are grades, hell even money if you’re just miserable? If I had to pick between living paycheck to paycheck but always enjoying every day versus making a million dollars a year but wanting to just pull that trigger and end it all each day, I’d take the former. You can’t put a price on happiness.</p>
<p>No, but I bet they’re having second thoughts about you.</p>
<p>What was the matter? Not enough stupid posts to occupy your time so you decided to make a few more?</p>
<p>I’m not dropping out of college just because I am not the stereotypical college kid. Some of you think like all those idiots who think I don’t belong in college.</p>
<p>you’re right, you do have an anger management problem.</p>
<p>if you aren’t happy in a particular school either make friends or get out
It will open a spot for someone who wants to be there</p>
<p>I feel that way about anything I’m accepted for- I always think that it was a mistake. I’m too paranoid to just be happy about it. </p>
<p>Sometimes I don’t feel like I belong with the people at my school too. You just have to get over that kind of thinking- don’t let it hold you back. You shouldn’t care what everyone else thinks about you. Just do what you need to do and don’t worry about what everyone else says.</p>
<p>Then why the hell don’t you just transfer schools? Swallow your pride and go somewhere you don’t hate.</p>
<p>OP is an idiot</p>
<p>"Then why the hell don’t you just transfer schools? Swallow your pride and go somewhere you don’t hate. "</p>
<p>DCHurricane, somewhere I don’t hate or somewhere where I won’t be hated?</p>
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You sound like me one or two years ago. Turns out I am just attending the wrong school, where I don’t fit in socially or academically. Now I am taking most of my classes at other colleges (luckily my college is part of a consortium that allows me to take classes at 4 other colleges and universities).</p>
<p>What do you mean when you say that you didn’t fit in academically? Were the classes too difficult for you?</p>
<p>Too easy. I didn’t have to work to stay on top of my classes for much of the semester. And on occasions when I would have had to study, I didn’t because I just wasn’t used to putting effort into my classes. I felt like a huge slacker who couldn’t get her act together. </p>
<p>Only once I started taking classes off campus did I realize why I wasn’t engaged in my classes. It is surprising how much the rigor of courses differs between departments at similarly selective schools!</p>
<p>I mean a place you don’t hate. Be honest with yourself man, do you think anyone at your school actually hates you? I mean, a deep-seeded hate? The kind of hate that makes men do things like the Oklahoma City bombing? If not, then they don’t hate you man.</p>
<p>I think what is happening is that you just don’t enjoy being at your current school. This puts you in a bad mood. People in bad moods tend to give off negative vibes (unless they’re good at hiding their moods). People pick up on those vibes (which are really just body language and vocal tone) and tend to shy away unless they know you very well, in which case they ask what’s wrong. That’s innate human behavior and you can’t really change that. What you can change is what’s causing you to be in such a negative mood. If it’s the school you’re attending, then the answer is simple: change schools.</p>
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<p>I think you are right about the negative vibes. What I can I do to fix that problem?</p>
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<p>I think I would have been happy at my first choice schools. Unfortunately for me I was not accepted.</p>