<p>is so they can brag to their friends how well they raised them? As an Asian teenager I attend many gatherings in the Asian community and I'm shocked. The women constantly speak of college. Some brag that their daughters attend Harvard and are condescending towards women with daughters in UC Davis. </p>
<p>Whenever one of my father's friends visit me (many of whom I have never seen before in my life) they ask me three questions:
1. How are you?
2. How old are you?
3. How are you studying?</p>
<p>I understand that education is a key component in being successful later in life, but is this type of obsessive behavior really necessary?</p>
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<li>What grade are you in? (junior)</li>
<li>oh, so have you taken the SAT? (yeah)</li>
<li>what did you get? (i did ok)</li>
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<p>and when i say i did ok (i got a 2310), then asian parents just usually stop talking to me. i guess they assume im actually just really stupid haha.</p>
<p>and people ask where i want to go and stuff. its always so amusing.</p>
<p>Obsessing about elite colleges; its not just for Asians anymore. Everyone is doing it. Probably a reaction to the bad economy. Even with diminished resources HPY still have a lot of financial resources.</p>
<p>yup, but i’m very fortunate that my parents don’t make such a big deal. They like to joke about going to an ivy, but i guess since they’ve lived in America almost all their lives, but still grew up in an asian community and speak the language, they aren’t as bad as other parents.</p>
<p>Yeah, it’s pretty crazy with the asian parents. Some of the asian parents in my town just KNOW everything education-wise about all the other asian kids in the town. It’s like all the asian parents stalk other asian parents’ kids to get the low-down on what college they are going to and all that. It’s really kind of creepy.</p>
<p>2310 isn’t ok, it’s a great score, even for Asians. I’m happa, so I meet lots of my mom’s Chinese friends and have lots of Asian friends, so even I know what you mean. But I’m not smart enough to get into an Ivy.</p>
<p>i’m asian. and my mom SAYS she doesn’t like to brag but that’s all she CAN do.
she doesn’t do anything besides stay home. watch korean dramas on tv. and yell at me to study. like ***?
so i get this when i go to an asian family friends’ house:
how old are you? (junior)
how are studies? your SATs? (good)
soo…what you get? (2370 SAT and 3 800s SAT IIs)</p>
<p>then they’re all in shock and they just won’t leave me alone.</p>
<p>and after all this. everyday i come home, my mom says: now all you have to do is work on that GPA of yours… i’m in the top 10…
as my favorite website says…
■■■</p>
<p>same here. my big bro got into nyu law school, like the number 4 law school in the nation, but my dad was dissappointed. he’s always talking about how his friends dont seem impressed when he tells them about my bro getting into nyu. he wants my bro to get transfer into yale or harvard. i have a feeling he just wanted to brag about my bro to his friends at work. oh yeah, im asian too.</p>
<p>i agree these questions are often asked when some my parents’ friends(ps, i live in China) and it is definately our Asian habit. And yes, Asian parents like ranking their and others’ children for comparison to show how well they educated their children.</p>
<p>but i got to tell you that, it is just our habit not the fault of their own. Because the parents’ parents asked them the same thing while they were young and somehow influent them to have the same topics with their own children. It is just like everyday our chinese are facing about the ‘have you had your supper/dinner’ sentence as the first one between two good friends. and we are not feel anything which is not right.</p>
<p>So if your parents happened to be Asian or their friends somehow did, dont feel anxious, or whatever you feel uncomfortable. just keep in mind that they are not going to do any harm to you , just prepare for the question patterns you would be expected to be asked
and answer them to the same asking and all you got to do is open your mouth up often a bit.</p>
<p>My school is literally packed with asians and most parents compare and brag about their kids. It’s really annoying and my mom is even in a way, looked down on, because she doesn’t really believe in tons of tutoring etc.</p>
<p>As once explained to me by an asian friend, the difference in parents is: </p>
<p>!. Get a 2300 SAT: other parents: fantastic; asian parents: Can you retake?</p>
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<li>Get admitted to Harvard and Yale but rejected from Princeton: other parents: fantastic: asian parents: What did you do wrong in your application to Princeton?</li>
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