Do you feel like you don't belong to the school you go/went to?

<p>I always felt like I did not belong to the school I went to. Perhaps I did not feel I did not belong to the school I went to as much as I felt some people felt I did not belong there as much as they did, but one way or the other the end result was the same: a lingering thought in the back of my mind constantly reminding me that perhaps I did not belong there. Academically, there was no doubt in my mind I belonged there, since I graduated with honors; but socially, idiosyncratically, personality-wise, it was almost too obvious that I did not belong there, or at the very least that I did not fit in with the majority of the sudent populace. I try not to sweat it too much, as I believe it's unlikely I would have belonged to some other school any more than I belonged to the school I went to.</p>

<p>Who feels/felt the same way?</p>

<p>The question is whether you transfer or not.</p>

<p>I still feel more like I belong to my old high school than I do to my college, but maybe that's just because I've only been there for a quarter. It's a good school and all, I just don't feel like I'm much of a college student, as I'm rather reluctant to even go to college in the first place. So I don't really fit in with all the kids who are <em>so</em> excited to be in college. Ah well.</p>

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<p>It happens more than you realize, but so many times, people do nothing about it and just stay miserable. Have you thought about transferring?</p>

<p>You're out of college. Why are you worrying about this now? Move on and go work somewhere where you fit in.</p>

<p>I think I felt out of place back in my college days, but eventually acclimated to the school. Don't know why I felt out of place, which is odd. Now I'm starting a new school and I've got the usual new school/place anxiety/excitement.</p>

<p>I'm beginning to feel like that about the school I'm transferring in to. It's too late to do anything about it, however. It does give me motive to try and transfer (again) to my first choice.</p>

<p>I felt like I did not belong at my first school, so I transferred and found that I could feel very different about a school that was the right fit socially. </p>

<p>My S is having a similar problem but it is not as clear cut for him as he has a nice group of friends at his present school so is not sure that transferring would be the right choice. He may still decide to transfer but is still unsure.</p>

<p>^I had no clue you were a parent!</p>

<p>I didn't realize who the OP was when I posted. Please quit with these "please feel sorry for me" threads.</p>

<p>S = son? Why not just type the extra 2 letters?</p>

<p>It's overbearing CC parent lingo. Go check out the parents forum, its rather scary. You're right though. I guess I could understand D, but S?</p>

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good so i'm not the only one that thinks it's weird/creepy; especially the DS/DD thing</p>

<p>I agree. That "S" thing, I don't understand, it's two letters that are maybe an inch apart on the keyboard.
What is "DS/DD?"</p>

<p>DD / DS - Dear or Darling Daughter/Son
DH or DW (darling husband/wife)</p>

<p>I guess I am used to posting S for "son" cause other forums I belong to it is common practice. I thought it was a little weird at first too.</p>

<p>OKgirl - thanks for the compliment! I guess I look young on the forum. :)
Actually, I feel like I'm still a college student myself sometimes (most times). Seeing your kids go through all this college stuff really brings it all back. Not much has really changed except maybe it's more competitve than it used to be.</p>

<p>DD / DS - Dear or Darling Daughter/Son
DH or DW (darling husband/wife)
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<p>ahahahahaha that actually made me lol.</p>

<p>so i take it that the OP didn't make any friends in college...</p>

<p>Yes.</p>

<p>And I actually made more friends than I imagined I would. But everyone is just too weird for me. And I don't consider myself to be normal by any means.</p>

<p>Needless to say after this year (sophomore) I'm going to try and transfer for my last 2 years. Going to hopefully end up on the west coast (from NY).</p>

<p>I don't don't hateeee the people. More so the school. Feel they're very hypocritical. As are the people. I just feel I can do better all around. :)</p>

<p>I'm still in high school (and with a lazy summer day, what else to do but lurk on the College Life forum?), and I honestly don't fit in there. It's the equivalent of a party State U school, all about football games and DECA competition hookups. But it's four years of my life, not forty, and it's a good experience to meet different kinds of people.</p>