<p>If you’re friends hangs out with dumb people to make herself feel better then she isn’t a good friend and if people brag just to make you feel bad then they aren’t real friends.
Its pathetic that you would if you even take into account whether they are intelligent or not before choosing a friend.</p>
<p>I hang out with people who have similar personalities and are interesting to talk to. Therefore some of them are intelligent. My best friend is pretty smart, not a genius, but works really hard. It doesn’t matter that she’s not super intelligent… it just matters that she has a lot of integrity and she’s a great person all around.</p>
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<p>No. I don’t really “like” his personality at all. The less time he spends in my home, the better. I just said that I have a quiet respect for someone who has no moral compass and “doesn’t afraid of anything.” He is an interesting character, that’s all.</p>
<p>I hang out with people who make me smile, treat me (& other people) with respect, and have that <em>spark</em> in their eyes.</p>
<p>Intelligence does not really dictate who I hang out with, but my closest friends are smarter than me and my older friends who I never really see are not as intelligent. Personally, smarter people are always more fun to hang out with, they are wittier. Plus, I see them more often in my AP classes.</p>
<p>I don’t really choose my friends at all, let alone choose them by intelligence level. It is whether we “click” or not. However, I do have to agree I find it hard to be friends with torpid people. My friends vary. 2 of them are intelligent and definitely smarter than I am. 1 of my friends is about the same as me and 1 isn’t as smart (but I think it is because she has 0 work ethic or motivation).</p>
<p>@StarbucksBarista, we seem to see eye to eye on a lot of these issues.</p>
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<p>That’s certainly not <em>always</em> true…It’s not necessarily to say that we WANT to…it just naturally happens. And…define nerds? Not all “nerds” compete against each other. Not all “nerds” are “boringly studious” (definition given by Google).</p>
<p>And guys, just to clarify, I’m asking what type of friends you hang out with, and whether or not he/she is “intelligent” otherwise known as someone who has ambition or passion or whatever. Chances are, most of you guys are probably hanging out with people similar to your interests- college and career (hence why you are on this forum). I’m not implying that intelligence DICTATES who we hang out with…</p>
<p>Fat_Nerd: Competition is the spice of life. True, goals and dreams are more than enough to live for, and the meaningful ones come from within. However, without competition, human interaction would be dreadfully boring. Would you rather discuss the weather or your favorite political candidate? The latter conversation would “devolve,” “unfortunately,” into a debate, even if you support the same candidate as your conversation partner. Who is the greatest supporter? What are the best reasons to support the candidate? Who’s second best? All debates are competitive. All conversations that involve something other than affirmations are de facto competitions. </p>
<p>Be honest-- if everyone weren’t so easily offended, so afraid to offend, then human interaction would be more competitive, and hence more interesting. Talking about bland topics is one big yawn. I readily concede that some conversations are non-competitive and yet interesting. When sitting on a bench with my girlfriend, overlooking the ocean, the sun setting… there’s no reason to compete then. But I refuse to accept the a priori assertion that competition qua competition is wrong or annoying. Competition, incidentally, can be friendly. </p>
<p>The problem with this type of thread is not competition, but the nature of the competition. Explicitly, the problem lies in the idea of intelligence quotas for friends. There is no sense in a sort of “friends test” which bars people from friendship who aren’t up to snuff in an arbitrary arena. We have friends so we can rely on them, and they can rely upon us. We have them so that we can talk to them, and them to us. Crudely stated, I think the problem here is that friends are for bragging to, not about, and this thread smells of the latter. </p>
<p>Concerning competition in general: your best friend or friends are the winner(s) of a series of competitions you set up for them. A kind word, a loyal act, a shared hobby… and a friend gains quasi-points, even if the tally is kept subconsciously. A hurtful remark, a betrayal, a disparaging comment about your hobbies, and a friend loses points. If this were not the case, it would be hard even to distinguish friends from strangers!</p>
<p>We need not denigrate an important and essentially harmless facet of human nature, but rather its perversion.</p>
<p>wow, you certainly have a way with words. </p>
<p>(did that just earn me a quasi-point?? :D).</p>
<p>Jess, I just want to point out something that jumped to the forefront of my mind when I read your post.</p>
<p>Your friend only hangs out with dumb people to make herself feel better. (supposedly)
She’s your friend.</p>
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<p>Oh, and I’d like to clarify that I have nothing against the question or the questioner. The thread has given me a lot to think (and talk) about, and I appreciate that. My initial reaction to the thread came from a coincidence in the post’s timing and from my own foul mood. Several flavors of this question, many with more egregiously conceited wording, had come in what felt like a barrage.</p>
<p>@Tizil7 She is my friend; I see her as my friend, but she just prefers to ditch me pretty much whenever she can. We’re not close. Sorry if my posts weren’t clear. But there is background information I didn’t really want to reveal…</p>
<p>Jesus Christ guys. Calm yourselves.</p>
<p>Refer to the “Would you date someone less intelligent” thread. There are people who honestly prefer to date someone who has more intelligent things to talk about besides just movies all day.</p>
<p>Just thought I could be honest in this thread. It’s not that I don’t hang out with people who can’t logically think and have no motivation; I do, and they’re great people. They really are… But intelligence is something that somehow subconsciously plays a role…and we on this forum know that.</p>
<p>Two of my best friends are people that one might consider “less intelligent” and they are both much wittier than me</p>
<p>My favorite people to hang out with are intelligent, witty, cultured potheads. </p>
<p>I know a bunch of them, and all the best conversations I’ve had in my life have been with them.</p>
<p>I go to such a small school I don’t really have an option of who I hang out with. I am one of 2 people in my graduating class who is applying to top schools. I have more than this one friend. So…</p>
<p>I don’t discriminate.</p>
<p>Both, but to be honest I hate conversations with those less intelligent. Seeing their values and morals is so funny. For example, ill be doing homework or something productive while a friend is sitting on the computer saying “Omg he got a haircut!” Or “can you believe they go out??”. Yeah, I cam believe or, I just don’t give 2 craps. Lol</p>
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<p>Thank you for some solid answers…(finally)…</p>
<p>And yeah i have to agree with you jennay12345 
I just don’t give two craps about a haircut…</p>
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<p>In your experience, which values and morals are most highly correlated with intelligence? How hard would a man with an IQ of, let’s say, 165 have to work to be as moral a man with a 200 IQ? Is it even possible?</p>
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<p>Is it always immoral to mention haircuts, or are there special cases, such as complementing a best friend’s new haircut, which permit mentioning? Which act is immoral, the noticing of the haircut, the mentioning of it, the in-speech acronym? Do you believe it to be possible for a smart man to notice hair? Sometimes I notice haircuts, and I’m wondering now if that’s a bad sign. Once, I mentioned to somebody that Justin Bieber’s new haircut made him look funny, and he responded that Bieber’s old haircut was no different. Does that preclude one or both of us from being either intelligent or moral?</p>