<p>daughter hasn't looked yet- I am so tempted to look but probably shouldn't. I feel like such a nag between the essay, applications, etc. but I am SO curious how she did! first attempt at ACTs. What to do?</p>
<p>We were up looking last night at MN while DS was sound asleep. He even forgot to ask me this morning what he got and I had to remind him. It’s not private information in my mind.</p>
<p>If she did better than expected, I’d not say anything and let them see for themselves.</p>
<p>Yes for one of my children, no for the other. The one just didn’t like to look first- too nervous!</p>
<p>Hard to do, but I think you should give her the satisfaction of opening the envelope and having the first look. (I’m with you on the nagging w/Aps, etc.!)</p>
<p>My first told me to look and then tell him if he would be happy or sad, then he looked for the number. My second is all about knowing ASAP and finding out himself, then telling me. I respected both their approaches to these things. Take your cues from your kids, just ask them first.</p>
<p>The scores are posted online first.</p>
<p>Yes, there was always a week or two gap between the scores being posted on-line and the “envelope in the mail.”</p>
<p>My son told me to look up his scores for him. I would not have peaked without his permission. I think that he was too lazy to even go onto the ACT website, LOL. He knew that he had done his best to prep (we knew that too), so whatever the numbers were going to be, it was the best that he could do and there was nothing to hide or explain to us.</p>
<p>As far as college admissions decisions, he wants to open up those envelopes!! I cannot blame him one bit.</p>
<p>Definitely look on the internet!!! Go for it!</p>
<p>we waited for them to appear on line last night…i finally said i had to go to bed… wake me if i need to get excited! and had a great wake up at midnight!!
previousl tests, sometimes i saw them first, other times he did. but last night was the final one, and he just needed one more point for a couple of programs and to increase his merit amounts. so a few apps will get the submit button pressed today with the new score!</p>
<p>Northeastmom: I think most admission decisions come via e-mail first? Big fat envelopes may be an afterthought.</p>
<p>My personal opinion is that unless you have their ok, it is their “work” and theirs to receive first. Let them have ownership for the score - good or not so good. I think it’s a good first step in the “letting go” process in that though SO curious, you have to let them take the lead in finding out. </p>
<p>My son always asks me to sit with him at the computer when he’s clicking to find his score. I kind of would prefer to stand in the other room and then have him tell me when he’s ready, but since he requests me to look with him, I do!</p>
<p>ihs, my son was accepted to two safety schools already and he was notified by his admission’s counselor over the phone for one (snail mail letter arrived a few days later with merit aid information), and the other did arrive first by snail mail in a small white envelope. The second school also made a follow up call. His admission’s counselor called personally to congratulate him, which I thought was such a nice touch! I cannot imagine making all of those phone calls!</p>
<p>Wow, I’m impressed. DS is still working on his list.</p>
<p>ihs, we started this process very early, even by CC standards. I am so glad that we did. All visits that we are going to take are finished as well as the interviews. He has a couple of schools that he has not seen on his list (plane ride away). I am willing to fly him out to those schools if he decides to do so. We actually did do a “drive by” of one of them a couple of years ago, but did not have the time for the formal tour.</p>
<p>I asked my son to finish his long and short essays over the summer break, which made completing the common app less painful. He does have 2 school specific essays to write and those apps will be submitted last. Fortunately they do not have an EA option, so he did not have to think about whethere he’d apply EA or not.</p>
<p>The 2 safeties that he was accepted to offered him short apps to complete (no teacher recs required, and early non-binding admission decisions promised).</p>
<p>ACT test scores yet! DD has been very busy cleaning room and doing a research project. She said she doesn’t want to know yet. URG! I am really trying to be a good, patient Mom! i’ve been cleaning non-stop to get my mind off of it. We are home from school today so lots of time just staring at the laptop. Okay…wish me luck!</p>
<p>I wish my D did not ask me to check hers, they were well below her expectations. Now I have to break the news to her. I am not looking forward to that.</p>
<p>We never opened any of my daughter’s mail or e-mail during the college search and application process. We always asked her to share with us what she received, however…as practice. We wanted her to get into the habit of sharing so that when she got into college and started receiving report cards and invoices from the Bursar’s Office it would be an automatic response.</p>
<p>Ask your son/daughter what they prefer. It the answer is “NO”, then you’ll have to back off and wait.</p>
<p>IMO – I’d look</p>
<p>We aren’t to this stage yet (not HS senior), but I look at the entire process as a FAMILY investment. </p>
<p>Most parents pay for at least part of the college education and app process. In my mind that makes me as a parent entitled to being in the know.</p>