<p>I kinda don't care really. I just don't think about "oh, are they as smart as me? educated?". Now that I think about it probably half the guys I've dated were noticeably not as smart (like they we're really really bad at math or didn't read or care about school at all or have much common sense, they're like "oh my girl is so smart"). I guess I don't care since all that matters is if they're nice and funny.</p>
<p>But at my work, well it's terribly boring secretary duty, sitting at the front desk and answering phones and the guys waiting in the lobby or walking by are usually in the GED program there. As in they dropped out of high school and are getting their GED through near by classes. I don't really tell anyone I'm going off to a good college in a month or so and I flirt because dammit I am bored. The phone doesn't ring much, no one gives me work to do, the pay is good and the hours are flexible but god it's boring. And these guys are pretty funny and cool to talk with. When they're like "so what are you doing after work?" I'm like "oh I'm busy going out with friends" even if I'm not.</p>
<p>Lately, my head is like "yeah, but I'll never get with you now, I want a guy going to college not just getting his GED". Before I got into college I was never like that, I'd probably take the guy up on his offer. Are you like that?</p>
<p>I mean, I dont mind if a guy is not as smart as I am , but they have to be able to hold a serious conversation sometimes.
The one thing I cannot stand is if the guy doesn’t have common sense or basic reasoning power- and god knows the guys at my work don’t have either.
That being said, my current boyfriend is smarter than I am, and I like it much better than dating a guy that is not as smart as I am. </p>
<p>Anyways, if I were in your position, I would most definitely flirt with the guys to pass the time and maybe go on a harmless date or two. Who knows, the other components to their personality might make up for their lack of smarts.</p>
<p>I think it all depends on how much dumber they are. If I’m slightly smarter then I don’t care, however if I have to explain myself every time i say a word with more that 7 letters, because they can’t read past 4th grade level, then I would go insane. Unfortunately, the latter seems to make up the majority of the men in my school…</p>
<p>Personally, I’ll put it this way… I am going to have smart kids. What is required for that is what I’ll do. Good genes and living in an environment amongst smart people are the best ways for this to occur, and the easiest way to make that happen is to have two smart parents. I can’t change how smart I am, but I can make decisions about how smart my spouse is.</p>
<p>Meh.
My fiance didn’t finish high school. He got his GED. He flunked a few CC classes. Does that mean he’s dumb? No it means he hates school. You can’t necessarily think anyone is dumb simply because they do poorly in school. </p>
<p>I go to college. I have a damn good GPA at my college and I’m graduating with 2 degrees (maybe in three years, I haven’t decided). I still don’t look down at anyone because they have a GED or whatever. Neither of my parents really finished school and yet my dad managed to run his own company and my mom is pretty high up in her work. I learned very early on that higher education does NOT always equal more intelligent. Perhaps you should stop judging people based on their education?</p>
<p>Higher education does not necessarily equal higher intelligence.
My dad has 8 other siblings and of that 7 of them never went to college yet they are all still successful and well off. My dad may have a PhD but he would never consider them less intelligent. </p>
<p>Besides do you know WHY they are getting their GED? You can’t assume it’s because they are stupid. There are many special circumstances that could require one to drop out such as money problems: maybe they needed to work instead because they understood priorities.</p>
<p>The fact that they are getting their GED now actually shows some initiative like they have a goal in mind which is better than those kids who just go to college because their parents said so and then waste 4 years tuition as they party and barely get by in class.</p>
<p>I don’t mean to sound cynical or rude but just don’t make assumptions about people Intelligence comes in many forms - not just book smarts.</p>
<p>Well, if I were to only date people as smart or smarter than me, I would have a very limited pool of potential partners. So I don’t really consider that. But I have broken up with people because I didn’t think they were very smart.</p>
<p>Yes, I would mind it. That’s a level that I really enjoy connecting to on - an intellectual level. Being driven is important to me, so though intellectualism and being of a high academic caliber are not mutually exclusive, people that catch my eye are often accomplished because being goal-oriented is centripetal to me.<br>
My one and only ex-boyfriend was great at memorizing facts and spitting them back out (meaning that he did well in school), but he never really thought for himself (that would be what I’d consider intellectual) on things that were important to him. So, I’ve found that I’m fundamentally incompatible on an intimate level with those who cannot think for themselves and articulate their opinions well.</p>
<p>Hell yeah, I’d mind it. I’m pretty smart, and I want to be able to have intelligent conversations with a significant other. I don’t even like friends that I can’t carry on a conversation with. This doesn’t necessarily mean good grades- I know plenty of people that are smart but don’t do well in school. And I know people that do amazingly well in school but don’t really think for themselves/aren’t really smart.</p>
<p>This. And what Izzy Busy Bee said. Especially for a long term relationship. In high school, I can deal with what I can get more, as long as he’s not an idiot.</p>
<p>wow, forgot about this and oddly I think one of those guys figures I’m a catch because I don’t have kids</p>
<p>and I know it’s something to be getting your GED, neither my parents did even that and I don’t figure intelligence is all in how far you get in education. I also see the average GED scores that pass along and they aren’t anything stellar. Some exceptions though, like the guys who wants to go into aircraft and aerospace engineering (alas he is shorter than me).</p>
<p>I just think that now I want someone who is going to be looking at the same goals as me. But then I remember that guy who liked me back in summer school, who’s now gonna be going to MIT, and how when we met up again I still didn’t find him attractive. It’s like, I don’t care if it’s all that great, and they don’t need to be smarter than me or even at the same level (however that level is defined) but only that they have, I don’t know, similar educational goals? I guess now I want a college guy.</p>
Intelligence comes in many forms - not just book smarts.</p>