<p>there are different types of intellegences, right?</p>
<p>I don’t like the word dumb, but I haven’t dated anyone who I would consider smarter than me.</p>
<p>^^^^Yep, Seinfeld. </p>
<p>I always get at least one Seinfeld reference per day, Haha.</p>
<p>This is wrong. I bet I can prove any random person from Sacramento State University to be “smarter” in some way than any randomly chosen person at Caltech (including me of course).</p>
<p>The thing is, I don’t selectively pick girls based on their dumbness or smartness. Its basically a fit thing. I need to get this feeling from a girl before I decide to pursue her. Its hard to describe. It just has to happen.</p>
<p>Its all about the fit–like college admissions!</p>
<p>Girls are like Harvard, sigh…
so desirable, soft, squishy, so hard to understand, and very eager to reject :o</p>
<p>I don’t mind but only if he isn’t substantially dumber than me. If he doesn’t understand simple math or why the world turns, that’s a big turn off for me. If we can hold serious conversations on politics or current events, that should be enough for me. I don’t really care if he doesn’t have an undergraduate degree (although that would be really nice), because your level of education doesn’t define your intelligence. Just look at Bill Gates!</p>
<p>My sister, on the other hand, dumped her boyfriend in college, because she was striving for her doctor’s degree while he was going to lounge around after his undergraduate degree. She encourages me to do the same, as in look for a highly educated man, but I’m not like that.</p>
<p>^^ Win analogy. </p>
<p>Ok, for me, girls can be slightly less knowledgeable in a topic than I am(I don’t believe in the dumber thing). I know for sure that whoever that girl is will be more knowledgeable in a topic than me. On an intellectual level, I would prefer for her to be equal to or above my intellectual level. Sometimes I feel the need to be put in my place by a spouse/gf/whatever.</p>
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<p>Yeah, but Bill Gates went to Harvard and his wife went to Duke.</p>
<p>" I don’t really care if he doesn’t have an undergraduate degree (although that would be really nice), because your level of education doesn’t define your intelligence."</p>
<p>It doesn’t define your intelligence, but you’ll notice a very strong correlation. If we’re going to define some level of intelligence as dumb, it’s far more likely that the person working toward their GED is at that level than the person with a Bachelors degree.</p>
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Rich=intelligent?</p>
<p>^Bill Gates is considered to be very intelligent.</p>
<p>He got rich because of his intelligence. Starting microsoft didn’t just make him rich, it’s how he innovated the technology in the industry.</p>
<p>I want someone who I can at least have an intelligent conversation with.</p>
<p>No, I don’t mind. I’m a girl, and like being the dominant one in the relationship. It’s just more fun that way.</p>
<p>i dont know anyone smarter than me, so its not really a choice</p>
<p>gawd that sounds arrogant but im not trying to be</p>
<p>^ I know how you feel.</p>
<p>My ex wasn’t the brightest crayon in the box. It was really difficult to hold a conversation with him because he didn’t have much common sense in general. He was a good person but sometimes I wished I had someone who I can actually talk about anything to. Around him, the topics of our conversation was very limited. I don’t consider myself that smart but I’d at least want to be able to hold a serious conversation.</p>
<p>Speaking of dumb spouses–my morher’s boyfriend is so freaking dumb, it’s ridiculous. </p>
<p>Just the other day, we were talking about how the sofa in the family room got really dusty and how clean it. </p>
<p>His suggestion: roll the leather sofa outside and blast it with a powerhose.
/facepalm </p>
<p>He’s always doing or saying dumb ■■■ like that.</p>
<p>Above a certain threshold, they’re all pretty much the same.</p>
<p>(I bet most of the people I’ve known at college were in the 98th percentile at least, thus dateable.)</p>
<p>It’s really frustrating trying to be friends, let alone date, someone who’s not on the same level of intellectualism/nerdiness.
Me and friend 1: (randomly talking about demographics)
Me: (brings in Malthus)
1: (that sounds bad)
Me: (seems unlikely to happen in Europe/Japan/South Korea/China at least)
1: (blablabla interesting response)
2: Oh my god, I have never heard anyone be so BORING in my life! Let’s talk about movie stars!</p>
<p>2 was my best friend at the time. I have never heard a more disdainful tone in my life. It hurt! I mean, I like talking about movie stars too, but, ouch. We have since grown very far apart. I’m sure I’m frustrating for her, too, 'cause I do like talking about the intellectual ramifications of policy developments etc. Basically, when I go off on one of my random tangents where I’m learning and figuring out stuff with my conversational partner (like 1), I need my friends, let alone any boyfriends, to come with me on that tangent. My prom date, for example, who has/had a crush on me, is very sweet but very not-that-type. Example conversation:</p>
<p>Me: (taxiing on runway of tangent) Oh exciting science thing!
Boy: Oh? (blank look)
Me: (lifting off on tangent) That could lead us to elusive discovery thing!
Boy: Mhm. (blank look)
Me: (wheee flying) And then it would be science fictiony, with potential technology thing based on exciting science thing!
Boy: Uhuh. (blank look)
Me: (crashing back to earth) …yeah this isn’t working.</p>
<p>To continue the college analogy, I think it’s like tiers of colleges. (Having nothing to do with actual tiers of college people attend/fail to attend.) I’m Tier 1 in terms of something…intellectualism? Nerdiness? Smarts? Book smarts? I dunno. I don’t care where in Tier 1 you fall, really, but you kind of need to be in that tier (of whatever) for me to be really close to you. I’ve never found anyone way smarter than me at everything, (Tier 0?) but I would enjoy trying that. 
Tier 2s or 3s, like friend 2 there (who isn’t dumb, just not inclined to academic thought) are a lot harder to “get.” Like I might be for a “Tier 0”…but I’d be curious to try.</p>
<p>Yepp. It’s really annoying to date someone with no passion for the world around them.</p>