Curious about this. In my town many parents do, but I’ve heard in other areas parents are discouraged from doing so out of sensitivity to those who were deferred or rejected from those schools. Thoughts?
I do not do it for the simple fact that I hate all the bragging that comes across on some of these postings. And maybe and only maybe, it might be ok once someone has made the commitment to go to a school… I constantly see postings of kids touring Vanderbilt or Duke and you see all the followers making comments. I rememberseeing a picture of someone visiting John Hopkins and someone commenting “Why are you visiting JH with a 1200 SAT?” Whoops!!! or someone posting a very easy school that anyone can get in, and people commenting “That is amazing. Congratulations to Katy”…
I do not post about it because I do not want to be insensitive to kids who are not having a good yield. So sick of all the bragging!!!
Not a parent, but I find it distasteful for the parent, another family member, or the student himself/herself/_self to post all acceptances that are not commitments or having to do with a family legacy. If it is just an acceptance, be happy and move on - nobody needs to know every college you got into besides you, your close family, and maybe your guidance counselor.
The kids share. They all post on their Instagram accounts. Last night my H and I were discussing this. I said basically what @oscar63 said but my H compared it to the “everybody gets a trophy” mentality and if you’re proud of your kid there is nothing wrong with sharing the news.
No. However her group has found a clever way around not posting it, by just showing a picture of the student at the school when they were visiting. When they pick where they are going they like the school on their Facebook page. Once the process is over for everyone, posting where they are going is common, and most show it on their slide at the slide show of gradation. My daughter has commented very negatively on the parents who list every college as they get in. I think her point of view is if a student gets in one school and doesn’t attend, it’s a bummer for the other student who didn’t get in. Once it’s all over for everyone, the stress is way less and it’s looked at a little different. When the difference of getting in for some kids is just a matter if their parents are full pay or not, a little discretion can’t hurt.
I did it. Since I live in a small town. Everyone knows me very well that I was a student who struggled with courses. Everyone was so happy for me because I believe almost everyone thought it would take me longer to graduate on time. When I got accepted to University at Albany as a transfer student, almost everyone was congratulating me.
As a parent I did not even consider posting my children’s college acceptances on social media. I shared the news privately with close relatives and a few friends.
What @happy1 said. Anyone who really wanted to know would ask.
At my high school students or parents can fill out a form saying where they’ve been accepted so far, and they’ll get a shoutout in the weekly email newsletter.
Only once she had decided on her school and I posted a picture of her at the entrance with THE sweatshirt on. But, my friends list is short, all good friends, and they knew of the struggle so it was more of a comical post, than a brag. We also bought my father (her grandfather who she is close to) a tshirt off the clearance rack in the bookstore that read “Skidmore…for those who couldn’t get into Yale”. LOL
No. Posted a picture at drop off. An acceptance isnt a prize or award. It’s an invitation. I shared the news privately with grandparents. No need for someone who is not in the inner circle to know DC chose not to attend their first choice, especially if they didn’t get in!
No. It puts even more pressure on the kids who don’t have an acceptance yet. One small way we and our kids can make the Internet a bit kinder place. In late April when most everyone had their plans settled, a post about the final decision is good.
I don’t but their sibling did. Appears to be very common thing here for sibling or best friend to post for them.
I posted at dropoff so folks would know where my child ended up. No need to post any other acceptances.
My kids go to a smaller private school with a 100% matriculation rate. While a few parents post pics of visits/acceptances/commitments, the school itself has a day (right after May 1) where the entire senior class wears their college t-shirt, a group picture is taken, and it is posted by the school to Facebook. Two other private schools in our area do the same thing.
“My kids go to a smaller private school with a 100% matriculation rate. While a few parents post pics of visits/acceptances/commitments, the school itself has a day (right after May 1) where the entire senior class wears their college t-shirt, a group picture is taken, and it is posted by the school to Facebook. Two other private schools in our area do the same thing.”
My kids went to a large public school with a 90% matriculation rate and there is a college day at the e d of senior year where the kids all wear college gear ( not just shirts often head to toe outfitted…girls especially with skirts in college colors, made to order shirts with lace and other detailing like this https://bygabby.org/about, sneakers with college color laces. Tons of pics with different groups are posted to social media.
No class that day so kids who didn’t want to didn’t have to come.
I haven’t yet, but likely will. I see nothing wrong with being proud of your kid and wanting to share news with friends and family.
Our HS also has “college day” on May 1 or thereabouts where the kids wear the garb of the school they are attending. There is also a wall in the high school where they post photos of all the seniors and where they are attending. But that’s different than posting acceptances.
If the kids are all posting to their Instagram accounts their classmates know already.