Do you think this is stupid?

<p>Do you think it's stupid to transfer to a college just because your friends go there?</p>

<p>YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH YES.</p>

<p>That is THE DUMBEST mistake anyone could make.</p>

<p>I second TwistedxKiss word for word.</p>

<p>To me, that’s not so different than if you jumped off the Grand Canyon-- because your friend did.</p>

<p>Please, stop with the stupid “jump off a cliff etc.” analogy. It’s the dumbest analogy I’ve ever heard. They are not the same and they definitely do not share the same thought process. Obviously you wouldn’t jump off a cliff just because your friend is doing because there’s no pleasure in doing so but you could derive pleasure by transferring to the same college as your friend.</p>

<p>that is very stupid.</p>

<p>if they’re really your friends, you will still be friends with them after college. Alternatively, you can go visit them, or hang out on breaks.</p>

<p>Don’t choose a school based on where your friends are going</p>

<p>ALL of my friends went to the same college. It wasn’t a good fit for me so I didn’t go. Luckily, because two of us got into a big fight sophomore year after eight years of friendship and didn’t speak for a year, and I lost ALL of those friends in the process. I would have been screwed.</p>

<p>Go figure, me and the person who had the argument are friends again now, but I didn’t make up with anyone else from our group.</p>

<p>Haha I went to a college none of my friends were at on purpose. I wanted to start new connections and meet new people. I was getting kinda bored of most of my classmates.</p>

<p>If your friends weren’t there, would you be happy at that school?</p>

<p>Does it offer the kind of education you want? Does it offer the kinds of social opportunities and job possibilities that you want? Is it near enough to – or far enough from – your parents to be comfortable for you? Is it going to cost a lot more money than you would otherwise spend? Are you going to be able to transfer most of your credits, or are you going to end up taking an extra semester or two to finish? Does it lack something that you really like about your current school? Does it offer anything – besides your friends – that you have come to think is important to you but that your current school doesn’t provide?</p>

<p>You’re likely to change a lot in the next few years, and they’re likely to change a lot too. It’s possible that your friendships will not survive those changes or even that they just won’t survive you spending a lot of time together. Some people are great to spend time with occasionally, but get annoying quickly if you’re around them all the time. So, yes, I think it’s stupid to go to a school that you otherwise wouldn’t want to go to, <em>just</em> because your friends are there.</p>

<p>On the other hand, I don’t think it’s stupid at all to choose one school out of several that you think you’d be happy at (whether that includes your current school or not) because, <em>in addition to all the other things that make it a good choice for you</em>, your friends are there. It’s certainly no more stupid than choosing a school because, in addition to the other good things about it, it’s close enough to where your parents live that you can see them every weekend, and there are plenty of people who care about that.</p>

<p>I think it’s stupid too, and I’ve had the experience because I transferred high schools just to be with my friends, and I don’t say I regret it, but it definitely wasn’t one of the best decisions I made.
If I could just talk to the person that’s considering doing this and get him to change his mind or at least think about it before he actually does it…</p>