<p>I'm a college freshman applying to several universities as a transfer. I'm applying to Cornell, UVA and WashU (among other schools).
My problem is whether or not to tell my friends that I do not share their love for our school and have submitted applications already.</p>
<p>If I'm accepted elsewhere (wishful thinking) I will definitely leave my current school. I don't want to blindside my friends in May if I'm studying elsewhere next year.</p>
<p>At the same time, there is a negative stigma that surrounds potential transfers. People may assume that I'm unhappy here or think poorly of the education provided. I will be viewed negatively for trying to better my education.</p>
<p>Any advice would be greatly appreciated.</p>
<p>-potential transfer</p>
<p>Your real friends, while perhaps disappointed, will understand that you have to go to the school that’s right for you and will be happy for you.</p>
<p>D1 waited until she got acceptances to tell most of her friends, no reason to discuss something that might not happen. The toughest part was planning for a roommate for the following year if she didn’t transfer. She talked to a friend frankly and told her that there was the possibility that she might not be attending, the friend was fine with it and it worked out OK.</p>
<p>My friends saw my application lying in my room and were surprised, but then just joked about it. They have been supportive, but the idea of it is pretty awkward. I think entomom’s advice holds very true.</p>
<p>great advice, i sincerely appreciate it</p>
<p>I would say something beforehand, if nothing more than planting the seed that you might go elsewhere. When I left my first university, I didn’t tell any of the guys I was friends with out there. Partially because I didn’t really think much of it until it was the end of the year, and partially because I was afraid that they wouldn’t want to hang out if they knew I was leaving. The one guy I did tell before the end of the year, I still talk to. The others, not so much.
If nothing else, plant the seed. That way they don’t feel blindsided.</p>
<p>I can’t speak for everyone but it wasn’t a good experience telling my friends and girlfriend at the time.</p>
<p>Yes, they are pretty happy for me. Nobody likes the CC out there anyway. It’s overcrowded and we can’t get any classes. Shame because this is the only junior college out there. The other one is forty-five minutes away. I’m trying to go to California state university Northridge, Fresno state and California state university San Marcos.</p>
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<p>Transferring has been a long and awkward experience for me. I don’t attend a CC, and almost nobody transfers out (except the down-graders who flunk out and go to CC). </p>
<p>First, I had to bring the common app recommendations to my professors, who hadn’t filled them out before; though, my professors are great people and didn’t question why I want to transfer. My economics professor was fine, but I felt really awkward bringing a dozen envelopes to my math professor because he is a big researcher and is very busy. Then, I had to go to my old high school, argue with the guidance counsellor who didn’t want to fill out the secondary school report (luckily I was friends with her for 4 years there so she agreed), and I had to beg the principal to give me a class rank (they don’t calculate rank; thankfully he made an exception). Then I had to run around for a month emailing professors, dropping off the midterm report and picking it up, etc. Then, I had to nag my parents for weeks because they didn’t want to do their taxes (I’m applying for financial aid), and now it’s 12:30am and I’m organizing tax returns into envelopes. </p>
<p>Also, in regard to friends, everyone knows that I’m transferring. Every time they see me they ask “have you heard back from any colleges yet” even though I keep telling them mid-May. It also gets awkward when they ask why I want to transfer, but I usually get away with it by saying that my department isn’t great, because my friends are mostly in engineering while I’m not.</p>
<p>It has been an ordeal, and my bank account is $1700 lighter after this whole process.</p>
<p>Does anyone else feel the same way?</p>
<p>I didn’t have too many friends to begin with at school. My friends back home and family were extremely supportive! But when I told the few friends at my current school some were in total supportive mode and other just dropped me like files…
But it’s also been stressful like @gamesofthrones has explained! My number one school which I got into last year as a senior is giving me the hardest time because they want my spring grades at my current school even though before they asked for my final grades from my hs (which I haven’t sent till now even though they said they already had it… I told them repeatedly that it isn’t possible because I need to give my hs permission to release that) and that they are considering me as a freshman applicant even though ill have 30 credits finished…</p>