<p>^ Same with me, except for that my feelings about children are neutral. Some are annoying, some are fun, just like everyone else.
Sometimes I wonder what kind of parent I’ll be like and how my kids would look like though.</p>
<p>I’ve always wanted to adopt, but I heard the process is very long and expensive. I’m don’t know much about this, but I don’t think adoption agencies will be all that open to moderate income single people adopting a child.</p>
<p>strangely enough, both of my room-mates last summer at a CTY program were against marriage/kids for themselves [what are the chances? haha.]
i’m looking forward to it, though. not like my parents’ marriage is that great, but whatever. i like kids : )
“Sometimes I wonder what kind of parent I’ll be like and how my kids would look like”
lol, same. weird thinking about that stuff, though. especially the latter…creepy :0</p>
<p>I’m planning to get pregnant before turning 21 so I could sing and dance “Papa Don’t Preach” to my father.</p>
<p>It’s lengthy and expensive if you want to adopt a healthy newborn baby. If you want to adopt a kid from an orphanage/foster system, which is the route I"d go if I were to adopt, it’s much easier. But I don’t know if single people can adopt.</p>
<p>I’d like to have a kid. If there’s a wife involved, that’d be okay too, but not essential.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t want to be a single parent, too exhausting, and I do think that kids deserve a mother AND a father. Unless one of the parents is abusive or something and it’s in your and their best interest to divorce.</p>
<p>I’d personally rather focus on my family (not husband/kids, but parents/cousins/grandparents/neices/etc), meaningful friendships, career, hobbies that are important to me, etc and maintain the freedom, independence, and mobility that comes with being single and childless. But who knows, maybe I’ll fall in love and get married - only if I’ve been with the guy 5 years minimum. And if I were to get pregnant, through, say, failed BC, I don’t think I’d have the heart to have an abortion. If I DO decide to have a kid, I"d rather adopt a kid in the 5-10 year old range.</p>
<p>I definitely want to get married, but not the children part. Childbirth is dangerous, at least in my opinion.</p>
<p>I never really thought I’d want to get married and have kids, but then I got into a long relationship and my ideas on those things kind of changed. That relationship’s over, but I still like the idea of meeting someone perfect for me & teaching our kids how to be good people :)</p>
<p>Plus, I have two boys’ names that I really want to use someday. haha</p>
<p>I really, really… hate… kids. If I disliked kids, that could change, but I actually hate them.</p>
<p>I don’t see how someone could really be against marriage. If you love someone, then marry them. I’m not someone who would get married quick. I’d probably have to be with someone for 3 years or so before I propose. But I’m not against it, as long as I know the other person is the right one.</p>
<p>I’m a bit split on children. At least right now, I don’t really like babies, so that would be a hard thing to get through. I’d definitely need a girlfriend/wife that was good with kids, because I’m not. But I do think it would be fun to teach them about sports and other stuff, help them become good people.</p>
<p>If you really want to have kids, but hate babies, remember that the baby part is only a year or two. Just like how you might have to take a few classes you hate as prereqs for a major/career you love.</p>
<p>But I will like MY baby- everyone else’s is ugly, but mine is special. That’s how it works. The situation is different when it’s your own.</p>
<p>I’m not against marriage, just not looking that hard. But then again, I’m 23 and still have several years before the education/career thing will settle down.</p>
<p>Oh God, I swear the number of genuinely cute babies is on the decline. </p>
<p>And then you’re forced to sit there and pretend this ugly baby, who looks like a cross between a gremlin and a monkey, isn’t swatting flies with its tail and insist that his bulging yellow eyes really are cute.</p>
<p>haha, so I’m the only one who thinks babies are still cute then? Personally, I think its the people who are getting uglier, not the babies (or maybe that’s just their personalities; people tend to change on me once I get to know them).</p>
<p>I, personally, am a bit scared of marriage, but I think that I will fall in love with someone enough for it to happen. There is no way I would marry someone unless I felt I could spend the rest of my days in love with that person.</p>
<p>I’m still undecided about children.</p>
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<p>Just a comment – I’ve heard that the kinds of feelings people experience at the very peak of a relationship are so intense that when they fade away, people may start getting urges to separate, which frankly would no seem right to me. I think an awareness of the different phases of marriage is crucial to keep a relationship healthy. But of coures, at some level or the other, one must feel in love – just not necessarily the same level all the way through.</p>
<p>i’ll admit, i really want to start a family someday. but it’s not so important to me that if i’m not 110% sure that i’m marrying the right person, i won’t do it. </p>
<p>my sister, on the other hand, loves kids but hates having to take care of them. her plan is to never get married, and instead she’s going to be the doting aunt to my kids, and spoil them so much that they’ll hate me and love her. there’s sisterly love for you. :D</p>
<p>ugh… there’s actually pressure right now from my bf’s mom telling him to get married and have kids soon. i’m totally against doing it just b/c his mom says so. of course he doesn’t agree with her either, but just hearing that she’s butting in makes me not want to get married. i may eventually want to one day, when i’m like 35+, but i’m still in college. it’s way beyond my reach at this moment.</p>
<p>And I thought the fact that my prom date’s mom told her that I am the ideal husband, and that she should marry me was pushing things…</p>