<p>I feel like over the past years I've put schooling or extra curriculars (volunteering, job, tutoring etc.) over having some sort of social life. I've realized that I really haven't kept any friends because I've put other things first. Anyone have any advice or such on how to balance everything while still getting out ahead?</p>
<p>Ask yourself, why do enjoy school? Even though I hate the stress of high school, I truly enjoy interacting with my friends and peers and learning (certain subjects, at least haha).</p>
<p>As for balancing, set times for yourself to socialize and to work. Between classes is a great time to socialize because you can’t really do your homework while walking to class. If you’re into parties, go to some, and tell yourself that you’re going to spend this 4 or 5 hour block just enjoying yourself.</p>
<p>And keep in mind, people who are successful at everything but lack social skills will not get into all the top colleges. Sometimes you just need to give yourself a break.</p>
<p>I really believe that the hermit stereotype is really untrue. Never in my life have I seen someone never go out (dances, open school night, talent shows) and commit to studying and school. Maybe that’s just my area, but I think people should make education their number one priority but not their only priority.
There is the visa versa, where people do EVERYTHING but focus on school, and most CC’ers would look down on that and see no future at all for those people, but do the people care? Maybe, maybe not.
And for the friend thing- I don’t think you should worry. For an extremely social person and being /popular/ losing friends happens more than gaining friends, hence the
typical highschool drama.
For myself… I really wish I caught onto the college game earlier. I wasted my time partying, getting caught up in things that could have been avoided, and being carefree turned out to be a flaw. If it makes you feel any better, you can look down on me and know that you will make more money than me in the future! Lol.</p>
<p>My advice? An agenda. A calendar. Personal assistant device or something. I put alarms on my phone so I remember, a day in advance, about certain social events and volunteering. AND AND! 
College is going to be a great way to make friends! Lol. But don’t let yourself party too hard to the point where you lose yourself and your goal. You don’t want to lose or have weak social skills (my opinion) because it can really benefit you, future job opportunities, and the people around you!</p>
<p>Not really, but I did sacrifice a virgin for good grades.</p>