<p>Because I definitely do. </p>
<p>When I first mentioned to my parents that I might want to transfer they were like "Meh...wait till the end of the semester." </p>
<p>Then I brought it up after Thanksgiving break and they were like "We need time to think about this." That resulted in me and my parents not talking to each other for a week. Finally my mom emailed me and just said that I couldn't dismiss the opportunities I have at my current school even though I had emailed her a list of very legitimate reasons for my decision. </p>
<p>My dad asked me if I still wanted to transfer over winter break, and when I said I was still considering it, all he had to say was that "BC is a good school."</p>
<p>I'm getting frustrated and I don't know what to do anymore. My parents keep dismissing this and I feel like they've made it so hard to talk about.</p>
<p>Remember that at the end of the day this is about you and not your parents. Certainly their input is valuable but you ultimately know what is best for you. However, if they are paying for your education and have financial concerns about your new university of choice, you have to respect that.</p>
<p>What is wrong with BC? I’m thinking of transferring into BC and I would love to hear your reasons why you want to leave.</p>
<p>you are truly better than me when it came time to tell the parents. That is horrible though that she could not say it to you instead writing an email. I knew my father would go crazy if i decided on transferring, so i applied and got in and slowly introduced him into the idea of transferring. I also agree with the above poster it is truly about your goals and interest since it is a deciding factor for what you do in life.</p>
<p>They clearly are avoiding the situation by putting it off with things like “wait till the end of the semester” and “we’ll talk about it later.” I would try to stick it out till at least the end of freshman year to see if things improve. But you definitely need to confront your parents and demand an answer. Bring up the fact that they’ve been pushing off this conversation: that way, if they blow you off then they are only strengthening your argument, and if they talk to you then they hear why you want to leave.</p>
<p>Thanks for the replies so far. </p>
<p>My dad is an alum of the school and my parents go to all the football games and everything, so I think they’ve fallen in love with that aspect of the school. I too love all the “fun” parts of the school, but they aren’t seeing the parts of the school that I don’t like, so I think that they’re having a hard time seeing what I could dislike about BC…it’s really annoying!</p>
<p>@Amorrison - This is true…they always told me that I could go wherever I chose and they’d support that when I was applying last year. That’s one reason I find it so weird that they’re not taking this well. The financial aspect shouldn’t be a problem.</p>
<p>@transfernkid - That’s actually pretty interesting. So you were able to apply without even telling your parents? How did you pay and everything…? I honestly might consider this :P</p>
<p>@NavyBlueNinja - You’re right. I gotta just be a little more assertive with them.</p>
<p>Well I told my mother first and she was not too happy about it and my father whom i always wait to tell him anything started listing the cons of the school throughout the semester. I did not tell him i am transferring a month before school. I pay for school on my own with little help from my parents so i guess it would be harder for you. I had fiances all set out before he would complain about COA. Plus it was in the same area just a few miles away
Word of advice: be upfront with your parents. Eventually they will come around to it. Not telling your parents might be a problem since they are paying for your tuition.</p>
<p>Is the school you want to transfer to a lot further away from home? It could be that they just don’t want you to go away from home and are having issues facing the possibility that you might.</p>
<p>[I’m assuming that you currently do not go to school far from home based on your comment that they attend sports games.]</p>
<p>What you think is a legitimate reason may be a folly, or be at least perceived as such. A lot of students complain about “social life” or “academics” or thousands of other things. But the truth is that your social life is what you make of it, as are academics. Your school does not create your social life. You do. So, in the vast majority of cases, what students think is a legitimate complaint is really nothing more than whining.</p>
<p>There are objective factors of course. For example, research labs are not as well equipped at Podunk University as they are at Harvard or MIT. So, if something like that is the basis of your complaints, and you can transfer up, you should by all means try to convince your parents to assist you in doing so.</p>
<p>But since you are not independent, you cannot make independent decisions. Without your parents cooperation you will be unable to transfer, as they need to sign your financial aid forms. So, you should either do what your parents tell you to do or please them well enough for them to listen to you.</p>