my stepmom doesn’t want me hanging out with my cousin because he is a bad influence. but he has an anger problem so i don’t know how to tell him and i don’t want to stop talking to him
If your cousin has an anger problem, please do not talk with him by yourself.
I would suggest asking your stepmom or another one of your parents to help you handle this situation.
Maybe they can speak with with your cousin about this? And, also be present to supervise you and your cousin if you do spend time together in the future?
Your stepmom sounds genuinely concerned, and probably with good reason. I suggest asking your parents to handle this and avoid communicating with your cousin for a while.
If he gets in touch, are you ok with saying that his anger makes you feel nervous? Say it’s something you think he’d better off discussing with an adult. You can be honest. Say you don’t know what to tell him and you don’t want to say the wrong thing. Keep the conversation short, and don’t get drawn in.
If he wants to dig deeper, maybe say you’re okay with texting, and give vague replies to his messages. By that, I mean be noncommittal. At least you can think about how to reply before saying something that might rub the wrong way. For example, if he says he’s angry just say “I’m sorry, that must be stressful.”
You’re not being mean. You’re being smart and protecting yourself.
i mean i know hes a good kid its just when he gets high/drunk but hes been protective of me and hes been there for me when i need him
and i don’t think he will hurt me
well i told him and he wasn’t annoyed at first but he was after he thought i was gone (even tho i was behind him) we still hang out tho without my parents knowing