<p>Thanks, everyone, for confirming my hunch. I think my friend got into this mess by assuming the school would meet their need and was dumbfounded when the bill arrived in july for an additional $12000 or so. Of course by then, they were committed. I think there is denial going on here. And I think picking colleges can be an emotional decision. I guess you all have confirmed that I have to say something. Normally, I’m such a mind your own business person! </p>
<p>My H and I are older parents and are financially able to cover our DDs costs, which i imagine my friend realizes. I’d be sick at the thought of hurting her feelings. I think I’ll do some investigating of our smaller state schools ( Penn St is no bargain ) and urge her to visit with D2. I think the trainwreck with D1 is just inevitable={</p>