<p>haha i'm asking this because i noticed that all my friends at school who study hard and get into great colleges have no love life. meanwhile, my more normal friends mostly have bfs and gfs.</p>
<p>is this correlated?</p>
<p>Sometimes yes, sometimes no. It all depends on the person. I know a lot of people who study hard and are going to great colleges who have long-term boyfriends/girlfriends; it's pretty easy to do, some just don't have any interest in doing so. Especially in high school.</p>
<p>It's cute that some people are all like "Oh we'll be together forever and go to the same college", but it's unrealistic.
High school dating scene = fleeting at best.
Some people choose to stay away from it because it's more of a distraction than a plus.</p>
<p>In my school, the class of '08's valedictorian, who is going to Wharton, has a boyfriend. So yeah, it probably really does just depend on the person. It's impossible to make accurate generalizations. :)</p>
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<p>Ha, if people think dating is distracting in high school, what makes them think it'll be any less distracting in college? Last time I checked, college was more difficult than high school.</p>
<p>I think you can balance it. Trust me, I'd be fine with a bf, but the whole all-girls sitch...</p>
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<p>Off of the top of my head, and this is from a girl standpoint,
- less drama all around (bigger population so there aren't as many repeats in your social circle)
- hopefully a higher level of maturity, less petty fighting
- more freedoms, less worry of loosing said relationship because there are many more fish in the sea.
- lot more casual, lot less "Katie and Billy for life!" "Oh it's our one year!"
- less gossip since no one will really care... it's college, there are other things to do and not everyone will know who you are</p>
<p>To start with.</p>
<p>In high school, you do homework.
In college, you learn.</p>
<p>In high school, your hormones are raging and you don't even know what love is.
In college, you've matured and you can finally develop a meaningful relationship.</p>
<p>I (salutatorian) just got out of a year and a half long relationship with our valedictorian - I have a full ride to rice, he has 2/3rds of a full ride to the same place, we competed academically like crazy people, won a lot, were known all-around as "the smart kids", etc. Totally not impossible, you just have to get lucky enough to find someone you can put up with in high school.</p>
<p>Time management is the key.</p>
<p>hm.. interesting. it would seem like the people who are focused on getting into college would realize that a high school relationship is only temporary.</p>
<p>i heard that there was one senior at my school who rejected stanford for uw to be with her boyfriend. i'm not sure if it's true, but if it is, then i say she's crazy!</p>
<p>Manage your time well and you'll be fine. I have 3 ap classes, the rest honors and have a 3.73. Oh also I've had the same bf for over two years =].</p>
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<p>I thoroughly hate this statement. If that were the case, we would never be able to have friends or family. Teenagers CAN love, but there is a difference between love and lust.</p>
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<p>To clarify, I meant love as in boyfriend girlfriend relationships. People are capable of other types of love from birth.</p>
<p>In answer to the original question, YES</p>
<p>romantic stuff is so distracting. gah.</p>
<p>i always feel bad when my friends ask me if anything has happened between me and a guy. they have plenty of drama, while i sit alone in a corner stressing about college. its pretty funny</p>
<p>Uh, I didn't want a boyfriend this year. I figured that I'd be leaving that person and it'd be very hard to leave that person behind. So I didn't have one. </p>
<p>After I submitted all of my applications, though, I did more things with my friends even though I had a lot of stuff going on still (e.g. mock trial). But either way, I don't think I needed a boyfriend or whatever to "make" my senior year. I don't think applying to colleges would really have taken away from my potential significant other; I just knew that I didn't one in the first place.</p>
<p>I HAVE NO LOVE LIFE.</p>
<p>better yet, i DONT know any guys!</p>
<p>i've never really dated or anything. whatever, life was ok, good friends....
then, BOOM, suddenly out of NOWHERE having guy problems, HUGE drama, etc. </p>
<p>The shortest version of the story, which is still long:
I liked a guy (A) who I didn't really know that well--knew him in middle school, lost touch cause of diff high schools, started talking again a couple months ago. Then I find out one of his best friends (B) likes me a lot, the best friend (B) asks me out. I don't know what to do since I only really like him (B) as a friend but don't want to hurt his feelings too much cause he's known to sometimes be spiteful and it might also ruin my friendship with the first guy (A), also might make things awkwards with some of my better guy friends at MY school who are friends with both (A) and (B). So I talk to their other best friend (C--who is a girl), and it ends up that she likes the guy that I like (A).
Basically, it was a mess. and none of them even go to my school.</p>
<p>but that's not the best part!
....this all began junior year, the week before AP exams, and continued for the following 2-3 weeks....and kind of still continues? I don't even know anymore. haha, I still like (A), but I'm not sure about all this drama. too much stress.</p>
<p>i say that high school love lives are meaningless. call me cruel and heartless but it'd be hard to stay committed when all you're thinking about is getting into college.</p>
<p>High school relationships are a joke or a facade. Seriously, its just a long term hook up. I would never compromise HYPSM for a girlfriend from high school. Everyone going out seems to think its the 'one' but it is so far from not in most cases.</p>
<p>I'll break the "Oh no, never! So pointless!" thread.</p>
<p>In my grade of approximately 200 very smart kids, I'm one of the, perhaps 10, who has already really begun to look into colleges and start planning. I'm also one of the, perhaps 10 (probably no other overlap), who has had successful, happy, long-ish (for high school) relationships. Why? Because I take both seriously. College has never taken away from my friends or my love life; I do SAT prep at home and coming home from school, not when I'm with them. My friends and relationships have never taken away from my college research and planning; ultimately, I'm making a decision based on what is right for me, not what is right for my exboyfriend or some friends.</p>
<p>Do I really think that every guy I've dated is my soulmate? No, of course not. Have I taken them seriously regardless, because they're good friends who just make me happy and can help me through stressful situations and who can also just be a lot of fun? Yes. Romantic relationships are a lot like friendships, and I don't think there are many people, even here, who say that having friends is bad because it distracts you from your academic goals.</p>