<p>At $63,000 gross income with other kids you are looking at a parental contribution of around $4000 at any of Princeton, Yale , Harvard, Wiliams, Columbia. If this causes you grief your daughter would have the option of borrowing another $3000 or so on her own account the loan portion of her aid. So for maximally $12000 (less than the price of a second hand car) she can afford to go to any place that accepts her. Stop obsessing about what is essentially small change to anyone and let her make her choice about what college fits her best.</p>
<p>For what it is worth, as parent of a daughter with exactly the same profile as yours, she is giving nothing away and potentially getting an unparalleled education by exploring science together with liberals arts. The ability to do so is the glory of American higher education and highly encouraged at any of the places she aspires to attend. Count your blessings that she will undoubtedly be given th opportunity to follow her star.</p>