Parents do get a lot of input because (generally) they are footing the bill.
My parents attended Columbia and Chicago, and met at Michigan in grad school. I met my wife at Michigan too. There are wonderful, brilliant college women all over, but the density is highest at the major research universities.
Chances are that you won’t meet your spouse in undergrad. Most people do so at work or grad school. Just don’t exclude the Ivy’s just because your parents want you do go (you will make them happy) Apply to them (chances are you won’t get in anyway) and others that fit you well. Just attend the best college your family can afford.