<p>I see so many threads from girls all over the net along the lines of "I love my professor!!! How can I let him know??!!", etc.</p>
<p>My college experience was hell & I'm seriously depressed because of it, & I am going to make a thread about it because I want some opinions, but for now I'll make a thread about why you shouldn't flirt with your instructors.</p>
<p>I have been a very emotionally weak woman most of my life, but then there was a prof who started to lavish me in the attention I so badly craved, because I didn't have anyone in my life who cared about me.</p>
<p>Anyhow, I sent this prof an email just asking about the program, & he came on pretty strong; "don't hesitate to email again!", he typed. I actually called him sir, but he told me to use his first name only which seemed normal enough. Later he starts asking me questions about myself, & even sent me a file I needed, early, & then tells me "we have a special connection :) " smiley face & all. To me, this was bizarre & innapropriate, but he was giving me the affection & attention I so badly craved, so like an idiot I gave in against my generally good ethical nature.</p>
<p>Two yrs straight we continually email flirt. I started becoming overly needy though & it showed. He didn't really want to meet me anymore, but still shot me the highly innapropriate email. When I actually sent him a pic of myself he said he couldn't see why I'd want to bust up that face with sports.</p>
<p>Anyway, when we actually meet after two yrs of emailing & occasional phone convo, he became awful cold towards me. At orientation I introduced myself & he didn't really respond, I then stuck my hand out to shake his, & then I left. I sent him an email asking if he'd like to have a formally informal meeting at school before classes, just to say hi & all that before classes starts, & he agreed. I go there on time, & he's chatting away with a friend, so I wait... I waited 15mins & just as I was about to leave, he called me in. Dead silence. He didn't say a word. It was awkward so I started stumbling trying to figure something out. Our 1st time officially meeting, he's late, & won't say hi? For real? And I watched him in class & @ orientation. He was so nice to the other students! Joking away & chatting with them. When I tried to make appointments for legit school work, he'd make them then cancel without notifying me. When I tried to wish him a happy b day he ignored me, but accepted the other students bday wishes. When I tried to ask him questions during break he'd raise his eyebrow & snicker at me, he made me feel so stupid I'd rush my questions so I could go sit back down.</p>
<p>Anyway, I did have a meet with him & asked him if he's still keeping the emails, he said no & that he deleted them. I met with every dean on that campus after they reviewed the emails; I felt like I was raped, the professor had in fact kept them, so he lied & reported me. In those emails I talked about my childhood abuse & body image, & he showed them. If he showed them the ones where I flirt or whatever, fine, but those really personal & painful ones... My god. He showed them & I felt beyond humiliated. College was not going well for me & the dean felt I should withdraw ( I did fantastic academically however). I wound up in the hospital but told that professor to come see me before I leave. I was to have a final meeting with the dean after my hospital release, & before I go back to my home city. Security approached me, & at the request of the professor, kicked me off campus. Wow. I was in so much pain.., that's such bs & there's no reason to do that. If he didn't want to meet me, fine, but the f--king dean should have had the courtesy to uphold the meeting, not kick me off campus like that. They could have security be present even though I'm not a threat.</p>
<p>Anyway, the dumb prof thought I deleted all his garbage but I didn't. When I got home I sent the deans his emails. The prof was reprimanded by human resources, which means he probably got a slap on the wrist. He's a creep. You can always see his pe-is & he flirts & lavishes all the young pretty things with attention. I guess when he saw I was a mature (26) student, he lost interest. He did try to hug me once but stoped when he saw I didn't know what he was doing, when I tried to shake his hand.</p>
<p>Keep things professional people. Business & pleasure do NOT mix.</p>