<p>First off, hugs. you will get through this. I think you should ask for a referral at your uni’s student services right away to get a counsellor to help you through the decisions ahead of you, and to see if it’s possible to take a medical leave of absence until you feel more ready to assess your path.</p>
<p>If you are granted a medical leave of absence, it may be possible to pick right back up where you left off after treatment and retain your scholarship…but people working with your particular school will know best how to achieve that.</p>
<p>I would hate to see you discontinue a path you love, either by attrition/inaction or because your ability to make the best decisions is impaired right now by the depression. I don’t see how changing your major would resolve your issue, unless you uncover that this is not the path that fits you or from which you derive pleasure. But only time and treatment will help you determine that, and you deserve the space to work it out. Fight for that time and space.</p>
<p>Things seem overwhelming or impossible when you are depressed that often in fact are solvable, and the critical part is to heal yourself and get the treatment and community support you need to take a fresh view if the situation.</p>
<p>I understand that you are afraid of disappointing your parents, but as a parent myself, I will tell you two things I hope will help you. The first is that many parents sense deep down when a child is unhappy and secretly worry about it anyway, consciously or unconsciously. Telling them would be a relief and allow them to help you if they are able. Secondly, many parents are either not nearly as invested in outward “success” as they are in your happiness…and if they have some ideal of how they want/expect things to go for you, now is a good time to face the reality because relationships simply work better are are ultimately more supportive when they’re authentic And you can’t have an authentic relationship if your pretending things are okay when they’re not.</p>
<p>The third thing I want to share with you is that I went through something similar in my early 20s and very nearly did not survive. But the best thing that came of it was learning what my body needed, and my soul needed, to be happy. Through counseling, nutrition, and reaching out to develop more meaningful relationships in my environment, I was able to move forward and have a life that’s richly rewarding. I became very resilient, and learned some great strategies for not only coping, but really enjoying my present moments.</p>
<p>Depression is not a life sentence. While medication alone may help a deep patch, there are a million other things that will help as much, or in some cases more. Eg. Vitamin B and D if you’re deficient, especially B12. Morning exercise. Self-coaching. Communication strategies. The satisfaction of giving to others. Loving yourself, and loving others. Learn what you need to be happy, and create it in your life.</p>
<p>Do not let fear eat you. Reach out now to get guidance. Talk to your parents now to get their support. Don’t make any irrevocable decisions. If some things are decided for you, don’t worry…its all small potatoes in the greater scheme of things.</p>
<p>Trust me on this, and best wishes on your journey.</p>